She Is the Sweetest Thing In My Life!

My granddaughter lives with us. She has on and off for her short 6 years on this earth. She is the apple of my eye.

My daughter and her father met while they were at Job Corps together.  He seemed like such a nice guy, trying to impress us with what he was going to do with his life. Our daugher fell in love with him, they got married and she became pregnant with my sweetie. Little did I know for a while that he was an abuser. He was a sick, jealous, religious zealot who thinks he is a prophet. He beat my daughter, robbed her of  her self respect and her self esteem. When she had my granddaughter, I went to see them in the hospital. He never left us alone together, always there, always afraid of what my daughter might say, I guess. A couple of months later, she calls and tells me she is being abused. I drive 200 miles to get her and my granddaughter, bring them home  and get them settled. 2 weeks later she is back with him!  I'm sick, sick i tell you! 4 months later, I get a call from a battered woman's shelter. My daughter and granddaughter are there and she is pretty battered. I drive 200 miles and get them again. I bring her to a battered woman's shelter near our home so she can get the help she needs. She stays a few weeks and moves in with us. We are threatened with death and burning our house down by her husband. We get restraining order and I have a gun at my side 24-7. My daughter starts going buck wild, partying, lying, etc. We help her move out by herself and she turned to drugs. My granddaughter was living in deplorable conditions and I went over one day and it was just horrible. I had to make the most difficult decision of my life and that was to call DFACS and have my granddaughter removed from her mother.  She came to live with us. She was about 2 at the time. When she was 3 1/2 her mother went into a group home/family rehab. After 3 months she was able to have her daughter with her. She stayed there nearly a year and graduated from that program.  When it was time to leave there, we agreed that my granddaughter would come live with me and start Kindergarten while my daughter got on her feet. She had section 8 housing but she is too sorry to hold a job to help herself. She thinks she is getting her daughter after the school year is over but I have news for her! She is a sorry individual, liar and she herself became a religious zealot who relies on the church to help her sorry ***.  I never raised my child to be like this. I don't know what went wrong but I do know that she is 27 now and there's nothing I can do for her but to tell her I love her and hope she will finally make a right decision. I can't help her anymore.

Thanks for reading my story. I don't have any more tears to cry about this.


JojoWazoo JojoWazoo
46-50, F
3 Responses Mar 13, 2009

Lilt and LittleAnnie, you both are so kind to say such comforting things, after the roller coaster of discussion you have both had all day. I forgot I had even written this story and found it in my draft folder today. I have cried reading your touching, poignant stories today. I just want you to know that no matter what deck you're dealt, you never know how it's going to turn out. We do buy all the guide books and dream of our trip to Italy. I think I ended up in Istanbul! LOL I would love to come to Holland and look at the Tulips with you guys someday. Our youngest son, who is a senior in high school has been slow to learn and lacks confidence. He has had an IEP ever since 1st grade. We think we see some light at the end of the tunnel but he is so timid and passive, We worry if he will make it in the world. The three in between seem to be fine.<br />
I wonder what it is with the first and last? Anyway, thank you for being my EP friends. Kindred spirits are the best!<br />
I love you guys!<br />

Jo, I'm so sorry things have been this tough for you. It sounds like you made the right call every step of the way. Your daughter and Granddaughter are very lucky that you are there for them. Your avatar is perfect for you!

Jojo, this is a hard one to read. I suppose you can never really protect your children completely. The world has some powerful evil forces working against us. I am grateful you are there for your granddaughter. Have hope and stay strong.