How Do I Stop Crying?

I lost my husband of 39 years three weeks ago only 9 months after his diagnosis with advanced lung cancer. I looked after him at home right to the end. He died in my arms. He was only 58 and the love of my life. I cry all day and can,t seem to get motivated to even get the Hoover out. How long will I feel like this?
Susiewong506 Susiewong506
56-60, F
2 Responses Jan 14, 2013

It takes time Susie, and in time you will come to terms with what has happened. The pain will never leave but it will diminish and you will keep your husband alive in your heart for always.
There will come a day when you can talk about him with fondness without crying, you may be surprised but you will be able to talk about him and laugh about things you did together; I suspect several months will pass before you feel like engaging with the world again, and I`m told by others that it takes about three years before you can really move on, but the whole time is a healing process.

I`m happy to talk with you at any time if you want to.

Best wishes.

I'm so sorry for your loss. You need to reach out to freinds and family or church group. I can only imagine what you are going through and my heart goes out to you. Things can only get better. Maybe get yourself a pet, a kitten would cuddle with you and take your mind off of things so you don't dwell on your loss all the time. Need to bring some happiness back into your life. All the best!

I have a little dog who was the light of my husband,s life. Having to walk her and feed her is the only thing that gets me out of bed in the morning. I also have a granddaughter due in two weeks time and I,m hoping she will help

Oh I'm sure getting your grand daughter for a visit will help tremendously. Nothing like children to bring joy and remind you of all the good things in life. If you don't mind medicine, your family doctor may be able to help you as well. This doesn't compare to loosing a spouce but a few years back I lost a cat that I was very attached to, she was my best friend and little confidant. She ended up filled with cancer and I had to put her down. I was devestated and honestly I was a wreck. I was crying all the time, could barely function at work, very depressed. I finaly decided to see my family doctor and he gave me some pills that helped me function better. I was still upset but I stopped thinking on it so much and I stopped crying. So that's another option you might want to look into. But given time I'm sure you will bounce back, but I wouldn't expect you to stop mourning for a while. 39 years is a long time to be together. I hope you feel better soon.