Very Unexpected...

My name is Nicole. I'm 31, from Minnesota. I lost my husband Mark, the love of my life, on January 5th, 2010, very suddenly and unexpectedly. He was 28 years old and died from complications of Atheroschlerosis and an overly enlarged heart. Both conditions we were unaware of. At the time, we weren't aware of any significant signs, but since I've basically become an over night expert on the disease that hardens your arteries, not only the coronary, but others in the body as well. He leaves behind a beautiful 2 year old daughter... and upon going back into the family history, we've found out that this is the same exact disease that killed his father, so now, I have to be extremely careful with my daughter. It's been a little over a month now, but I'm still devistated :( I miss him more than words can express. The nights are the worst...

mysticalmuzik mysticalmuzik
31-35, F
7 Responses Feb 8, 2010

Hi l lost my husband to the same heart disease your husband died from. My husband was 29 years old. I am a couple of years older than him. We were not aware of the problem he had. We did know that it runs in his family but he never complained to me that he was having chest pain or was sick. I was at worked when he was in the hospital. When I finally arrived at the hospital, he had already passed. I cry every day. It hurts because picking up the pieces is not easy. We have no kids. We were trying but it just didn't happen. Hope your doing a little better.

I lost my husband about 3 weeks ago as well, I am reading through all this while crying, I too don;t know how to go on or get passed all the emotions i'm feeling. I have contacted a grief councelor and put my kids in grief groups for each of their age levels. I try to be strong for my kids but I am broken inside. I just go with the flow and motions. I an hardly remember what I did yesterday. I have lost my grandparents and 3 months ago my dad as well. The emotion of losing your spouse is so horribly worse. I feel like my heart is empty.

I lost my husband about 3 weeks ago as well, I am reading through all this while crying, I too don;t know how to go on or get passed all the emotions i'm feeling. I have contacted a grief councelor and put my kids in grief groups for each of their age levels. I try to be strong for my kids but I am broken inside. I just go with the flow and motions. I an hardly remember what I did yesterday. I have lost my grandparents and 3 months ago my dad as well. The emotion of losing your spouse is so horribly worse. I feel like my heart is empty.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thats a good picture of Mark - he looks like a really nice guy. I know you are really hurting right now. I lost my wife 6 months ago. After the initial insanity I started talking to her every night before I go to bed. That has been the biggest help - I have learned so much about myself and her and us during these conversations. I encourage you to do the same. I also joined a grief counseling group, and I also recommend that. This is like the hardest thing in the world to go through alone. And of course you can always share with this group. We care :)

Oy, i am so sorry for your loss, and hope all will be good for you.<br />
Coronary artery disease, and so difficult to control, truly a silent killer.<br />
I am an rn, having practised primarily with Open Heart surgery, and coronary ICU's<br />
Continue to monitor your daughter, simple blood tests to monitor her good and bad cholesterol count, and also her TRIGLYCERIDE levels. Definitley limit her sugar intake, as this causes the Tri to rise, and let her instead eat complex carbohydrates, found in vegetables, and fruits, such as berries, and cantoloupe, the lowest on the glycemic index. Encourage her to run around,as all little 2 yr olds do, and, limit her TV time, and her computer time. Also, read labels, as most foods have so much unneeded sugar added, and learn the names of those sugars, highfructose syrup, corn syrups, etc..<br />
May your journey be a happy one, forever.<br />
Chipperchickwishesyouthebestandthinkyourdaughterisbeautiful!

Same here about sorry to your lost. A whole bunch of matters have to be taken care of and pray you can handle the transition.<br />
Please let us know what preventive measures can be taken to avoid hardening arteries, coronary. I know fat, red meats can be bad. But I also heard that onions cut fat cells in the blood streams.

I'm sorry for your loss. I wish there were words of comfort I could give, but I know there really isn't much that can take the feeling away. It's been almost three years for me. If you need to talk I'm here. Just pm me. I do know that sharing or talking helps, so if you need me, I'm here.