Husband Died Of Sarcoma - Valentines Day 2010

My lovely husband died of Sarcoma 14/2/10. He was diagnosed 14 months prior to that. We have no children & had been together 18 years. He was 52. I have no faith so can`t rely on the comfort of knowing he has gone to a better place. Our social life was wit lots of other couples, I feel as if I now don`t fit in with them so need to find some friends like myself.  This is why I have decided to try and speak to a group of widows who might be able to support me on my journey back to normality.     

An49 An49
46-50, F
2 Responses Mar 13, 2010

My husband of 14 years died on Valentine's Day, too. I can truly empathize with you. For me, faith has been a lifesaver, and I hope that you may be open to that idea as time goes on. However, I am not here to preach to you. It's been four years now, and I still find myself meandering through the stages of grief. The best desc<x>ription I've ever read was this: The grief never disappears completely; however, it shifts and changes direction with time. I liked this one because it gave me credibility and made me feel more normal. I plan to not do anything on 2/14 and I do my best to ignore all the retail hype that surrounds Val Day. I truly am with you, no matter how you decide to spend the day.

I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. Losing him must have been heartbreaking. Speaking to or joining a support group sounds like a great place to start, Reach out to your female friends and go do lunches, go to bookstores, go hiking, rescue a dog or cat, and just get out there. This is but a new chapter in your life. HUGS to you. ~ Ami