I Wasnt Holding Her When She Died

I completely understand your self recriminations. It is by the way very common for people to feel guilty and blame themselves when a beloved animal passes from them for what they could have done better. Remember, your pet loved you, but you are human and make mistakes just as she made mistakes here and there - your great bond always allows for forgiveness.

And I can tell you I've had two cats die in my arms. It is what I wanted and I kept vigil to be with them every last moment. but really, it is not necessarily always the best thing. I think my husband and I were so hovering over my last beloved cat when he drew his last breaths that he might have been more comfortable just being quietly alone and passing. In the end that last moment isn't a drop as important as the life lived together and the love shown and passed between you. As a special recognition of your beautiful friendship, make the day your cat passed a private "cat holiday" and on that day give a stray some extra food, or allow a cat into your house you usually wouldn't or go to an animal shelter and visit cats. In this way you can give the love you missed giving to your special friend to other cats in her honor and her memory. This will help heal your heart, and will help other cats as well. Peace be with you.

Sorry for your loss and please don't feel guilty. You didn't know she was trying to get in or that she was dying. It's not your fault. She was probably too sick to think much about whether you cared or not. She wanted to get in so that she could die with you, but when she couldn't get in, she probably slipped into a coma or was too ill to think about it the way you are imagining she did. Even if she did think you didn't care (which is unlikely) I'm sure that after she crossed over, she knew that you were unhappy and she knows that you care. I'm sure she doesn't want you to feel sad now and she must realize that you are devastated. If you believe in animal mediums, you might be able to get help from someone who could talk to her form the other side. I've heard of a lady who does this, but I can't remember her name. Someone like this could help you talk to your cat on the other side. You can make sure your cat knows you loved her - and I'm sure she already knows.

I am sorry to hear about your cat.I amdevasted about losing mine today.Tom had to be put to sleep to save him from pain and suffering.I am so depressed.

that is really sad. but she was likely just laying down and sleeping, dont imagine any of the things you mentioned. she knew you cared about her all the time. you must be depressed thinking about what if but there is nothing you can do to change the timing. she would have died regardless. try to find comfort in her memory and thankful she died in a nice warm environment close to you and not in the streets. im very sorry for your loss, its like losing a child.

So sorry to read about your beloved cat. Don' t feel guilty be happy that she choose to die near her loved ones facing inward prove to me that she wasn't really alone even if you weren't holding her she died knowing that you both had 14 beautiful wonderful loving years together.