Teach Your Children Well

A few friends of mine teach music. I happened to be at the school were they teach doing some work on the school computer. I was able to hear the session my friend was having with his student. The student was going for an audition and really needed his help. But the student didn't want to listen to anything thing he was saying. If he told her to play, she wouldn't. If he was talking, trying to correct her, she started to play over him. When ever he told her that she was playing something wrong, she insisted that it was right. She even told him that she could be doing other things. I was getting mad and I wasn't even involved. I told my friend that he deserved a Nobel Peace prize for not throwing her out. It makes me wonder if student understand that their teachers want them succeed?If the student does well, it's great for the teacher. A student doing poorly doesn't help the teacher, or make him feel good in the least. I felt sad about the whole incident. He tried to explain to her that he knew the people she was auditioning for and that her current playing was going to make it. He was also trying to tell her what she needed to do to improve, but she wouldn't hear it. She really didn't seem to get that this audition is on a higher level than anything she applied for before, and that she was going to face competition and the slot would not be handed to her. In the end, she just packed he stuff and left. Maybe I'm the one who doesn't get it.
holloway64 holloway64
46-50, M
1 Response Sep 25, 2012

It would not surprise me if some of that is due to the sense of entitlement some children have and the fact that their parents or familial situations don't push them to try harder. Or they haven't been inspired to do better. Often that comes from a supporting family unit. And with so many families living in less educated, more consumer-driven lifestyles/states of being, it trickles downward. What is there for children to strive for at times?

the family is wasting $40 an hour on a kid that not trying to benefit from the lessons. Mostly she feels that since she had the talent to make her jr high school band, she will make the high school band.

It is unfortunate that kids, and families, make assumptions like "she is good enough". Ya' know? I have run across kids like that often over the years. And families as well. They put their kids into special programs, etc. because it "looks good on their educational resume" or it's "what all good parents do"...blah, blah, blah. I can think of a better way to spend $40/hr...spending it on children who want to learn and excel. Or something that's beneficial overall. Like improving a school's base music program.

Ok, I'm finished with my soapbox...lol

it's not so much lack of talent but lack of the willingness to do the things she needs to do to improve.