Ok You Can Stop Saving Now...My boyfriend and I decided to save ourselves for marriage. We actually bought rental property together and moved in together too...yet restrained ourselves...we even slept in the same bed!
Flash forward in time to our honeymoon. I slipped in behind him in the shower. Hands moving around to his waist and up his warm chest...he responded by yelling "What are you doing?!" and shoved me back. My head hit the tiles and I fell down. I ran to the bed and cried. He just wanted to take a shower. Eventually we consumated our marriage, but not on our honeymoon.
He was never a very sexual or sensual person. I had never known that. Flash forward to now. After 15 years of a sexless marriage, after 23 years of marriage and 31 years of being together I finally did it....I left.
I am not bashing anyone's desire to wait. It's sweet. It's noble. It's moral. But...
please at least consider my story so that you don't find yourself in the same sitiation so that you don't find yourself with an asexual person many years down the road. I shared my personal story to spare even one person that might benefit...then again, love is blind, isn't it?