Love My Space

I recently met someone who I think I could spend the rest of my life with. The problem is, I've always been weird about relationships. I can only spend so much time with someone. Things were going fine after I met my boyfriend. He has his own house and I lived in the dorms at college so we both had our own space. Then after I was with him for about 6 months he asked me to move in with him. I was somewhat reluctant to say yes, but I love him and eventually, slowly I moved all my stuff into his house. We still get along good and love each other so much. But I've always been the type of person to need my own space. When I first moved in with him, I would periodically stay at someone else's house to give ourselves a break from each other. I don't believe humans are supposed to spend all of their time with one person. I think it's unhealthy. He noticed my need for this and expressed his concern about it. He said he thought my need for space wouldn't be good for a long term relationship. Honestly, I think it would be healthy for us if we kept it as part of our relationship. But sometimes I can't help but think I'm alone in this thinking. We've been dating for about 15 months now and I still find myself needing to spend the night somewhere else a couple of nights per month. Am I weird about relationships or being reasonable?
lasersox lasersox
22-25, F
1 Response Jan 15, 2013

I don't you're weird at all, in fact you sound very normal to me, but that's probably because I'm exactly the same!

I've been with my husband for over 5 years now, married for nearly 3 and I still need time to myself. Luckily he has a job where he travels a bit and a lot of the time needs to stay 1 maybe 2 nights away from home a week, and I love it. And on the nights that he is at home, he doesn't usually get in until gone 7pm.

I honestly think that if he had a normal 9-5 job that we wouldn't last, not because I don't love him, but because I really do need my own space a lot of the time.

Sorry, I don't have any solution or advice for you lol but I just wanted to let you know that you're not the only one.