When I ask you to listen to me,
And you start giving me advice,
You have not done what I asked.

When I ask that you listen to me,
And you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way,
You are trampling on my feelings.

When I ask you to listen to me,
And you feel you have to do something to solve my problems,
You have failed me, strange as that may seem.

All that I ask is that you listen,
Not talk or do - just hear me.

When you do something for me
That I need to do for myself,
You contribute to my fear and feelings of inadequacy.

But when you accept as a simple fact
That I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational,
Then I can quit trying to convince you
And go about the business
Of understanding what’s behind my feelings.

So, please listen and just hear me
And, if you want to talk,
Wait a minute for your turn - and I’ll listen to you.
BournUltimatum BournUltimatum
22-25, M
2 Responses Feb 14, 2012

thank you

So true. Too often people fall short of just listening as simple as it may be. I think it involves patience to allow someone to go through their feelings without taking action but by simply listening. Listening offers so much support.

Thanks for giving some views on my story. I fully agree with you...
Buy why that world is so irrational.
I really don' know but whatever it' so weird for me..