I Just Didnt Realize How Scared I Was

how did you get through those weeks where you didnt know if he might not return? im currently terrified cuz my girlfriend of the past few years, a girl i promised i would marry one day(bought a ring and everything) is all of a sudden becoming very distant and i dont know what to do anymore, im losing my mind

'Why aren't you angry?'



there is no reason to be.....how would that help the situation....he had a tough time upstate and i'm not going to add to his guit, he already feels guitly enough for leaving me hanging for those couple weeks





'He abandoned all of you'



it was only a couple of weeks, and its not like he just disappeared. i knew where he was the whole time...hes working up state. and i still had access to all of our accounts, so he was still taking care of us financially. he hadnt taken any drastic steps towards leaving us, he just needed some alone time.



you'd have to understand his work situation to realize why i didnt pry. he's been up state since the end of november. he was supposed to start salary pay in december....his work schedule has been wishy washy for 4 months now. the transmission went out in our car, he paid 2300 to replace it, then skidded on the ice 2 days later and totalled it. things just hadnt been going as smoothly as he wanted. and i know my husband, he tends to crack under certain types of pressure. usually thats where i come in and help, but for some reason he distanced himself from me; i'm not sure why that is. he just felt so upset about everything and keeping to himself, in a way, made him realize how much he needed his family....sorry, thats just not something i'm willing to be angry over.....like i said, he feels guilty enough for shutting me out, why make him feel worse.



'Your husband stopped calling you. You had to chase after him.'



i didnt have to chase after him....its not like he was bar hopping, giong to ***** clubs, and cheating on me....you'd have to understand what he was going through and our relationship to know why i am sure of this....he was hurting inside....and making him feel worse, i think, would only worsen the situation...



perhaps thats just me.....he didnt do anything drastic, so why should i react drastically

Why aren't you angry?



Your husband stopped calling you. You had to chase after him. He gave you a vague explanation that explained absolutely nothing. Then he calls and announces that he "loves you" and "wants to come home". He doesn't know what made him "sad" enough to literally abandon his family, but it's all ok because you don't want to "pry".



WTF? He abandoned all of you, and you are acting like you don't even deserve a very good explanation??? He's your husband, not your cat that disappeared for a few days and now wants to be let back in.



Hon, it NOT all about him. It's about you and the children too.



Don't you deserve to be treated like you count for something?

well i can not say that i was happier than you..but i am elated!



and i will attempt to be a gentleman and defer to dot.. and say..i was almost as happy as dot was..but since she exceeds my capabilities in this and nearly every other category requiring cerebral and emotional intelligence i hereby defer to ....her

haha. thanks. it actually did get a bit messy today, but i was too happy to care :)

"i must say, my house is spotless....feeling unhappy really really makes me clean"



I hope this comes across correctly...but I hope your house stays cluttered. : D

but mine was dorky!

thanks chris

Glad to hear it Danielle. I hope it all works out for you. I wish you all the best.

aww how cute...dot and pure are fighting over whos happier for me



well i can settle this, trust me, no one is happier than me.......ha

i wish, but no, he cant stay longer. he has to leave for libya on march 1st for work.....originally he wasnt planning on coming home at all....but he changed his mind once he realized how much he missed us. thats why he can only stay a couple days; he'd like to stay longer.....but a couple days are better than no days...and when he comes back home in april, he will stay a month....that, i look forward too....

I am also happy to hear that you will be both together even if it is only for a few days, you never know he may stay longer.

haha...thanks pure

thanks cripplecrow. you have no idea how much better i feel today as opposed to yesterday......although i must say, my house is spotless....feeling unhappy really really makes me clean

my smile is bigger than dots..it is!!

haha. i'm happy to put a big stupid smile on your face



:P

thanks bbb