I Think I Am..

I ve been in and out of relationships and all my relationships have been really dramatic, lustful, full of lies and cheating. I am scared of falling in love with a person or been in a relationship, because of my past experiences. My father cheated on my mother and well that broke my heart for the reason that i thought he was a great person. The second person to brake my heart would be my ex fiancee whom i loved with my entire life. I was with him for a very long time and he was cheating on me. Those are the reasons why i get scared and plus all the relationships ive had either they still love there ex gf, cheat on me, are compulsive liars, have a addiction, or they just want to use me for sex. It really sucks been in those sort of relationships so thats why i think i am scared of been in a relationship and actually falling for them, but then again i take my chances and i end up been in a relationship just to try it out. I can be scared sometimes and the other i can just take a risk!
cynthiaeliza cynthiaeliza
26-30, F
3 Responses Jul 22, 2010

Hi <br />
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Maybe start to notice relationships that you know of where the guy doesnt cheat. Sometimes half the battle is knowing its possible. <br />
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There are men who wouldnt entertain the idea of cheating its just not an option. They are easy to spot, so as you observe your friends or your familys relationships where theres a guy/guys who dont cheat you'll start to notice a similarity in these guys and think it will help your judgement. <br />
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Also some of this is because you dont feel worthy of the 'right' guy, thats a tougher nut to crack so maybe try and improve your sense of self esteem.<br />
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I have trouble with relationships, but not this particular problem, I dont go out with serial flirts if a man doesnt behave like Im the only girl in the room I go off him very quickly but thats not a conscious thing. Trust your gut, believe if it can happen for others it can happen for you and also understand whatever higher power you believe in it does want the very best for you, because that is very true.<br />
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You'll find your way angel, your good at other stuff you'll be good at this.<br />
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All my love Angel<br />
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XX

thank you for that comment. Well its not that i think that way all of that has happen in all my relationship's. I have moved on and i do think positive just that sometimes i get scared.

Sometimes in life you have to just take a risk ! However if you project and think yo yourself that you will get another guy who will end up just cheating on you and feeding you a pack of lies then, yes it will happen, try and change your mindset to thinking i WILL meet the guy who is gonna treat me as i need and deserve to be treated, without all the lies and mistrust................Follow your heart, he is out there, and despite when men treat us bad we as women usually end up saying 'bloody men they're all the same'! I know that there are decent men out there.<br />
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But you are so young and have a lot of living to do, don't go looking for love let it find you. You have had some deep and upsetting relationships, let them go forgive them and move on to free yourself. You deserve the best - keep telling yourself that and you WILL get the best.. I wish you all the luck in finding happiness, and just remember you will, be patient ......love wishwing x