Love Stinks

I've had relationships in the past where its all been dandy and good in the beginning then something changes all of a sudden it seems like I'm exactly what they don't want and then I get dumped. The other day I saw a new couple and I broke down crying. Maybe I should go to counseling. All I could think of is how the tone of his voice every action every word was probably a lie and he was just gonna end up breaking her heart. That is probably not true at all though I'm at Christian school now people don't do that here. right? people are supposed to be good at christian school. Then it made me think maybe I have a problem thinking all these bad things of guys all the time, when just maybe not all of them are bad. No that's ridiculous men are only here to break as many hearts as they can. That is why I'm going to adopt I like kids but I just don't like being heartbroken all the time.
Peep22 Peep22
22-25, F
6 Responses Sep 5, 2011

you have very wise words Social02<br />
I would have to agree with you that girls do it just as much as boy's<br />
I know several girls who just break boys hearts<br />
I will look for the unnoticed guys

You're right to be concerned about having your heart broken by another guy. Yes, it's true that most guys are not really looking for long-term relationships in their 20's and 30's, most are just looking to sleep around. Even men (and women) who claim to be Christians can trick someone into sleeping with them and then break their heart. <br />
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I'm not the type of guy that breaks hearts because the thought of hurting people doesn't sit very well with me, but as a guy I am around a lot of other guys when they talk about women and most of them see dating as just another way to sleep with a woman. Once they sleep with her they are gone or if the sex is really good they may stay for awhile and leave when they get bored or someone more interesting to them comes along. It sucks but thats a matter of life. And it's not just guys, women do it too. I've had my heart broken by women and as a result I'm a very nervous about relationships. It's a lot easier to find people who want to hook up than a relationship. <br />
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While MOST guys are bad you need to remember that NOT ALL are. There are some nice guys out there, you just have to keep looking. Try and find the hidden gem. There are a lot of guys out there that are not noticed and thought of as hot because they may be out of view from the rest of the world because they are studying or volunteering their time at an old-folks home, tutoring school children or taking care of animals at a pet clinic. Or they may be the quiet and reserved type that aren't the life of the party and keep to themselves. Follow your sixth-sense and TAKE IT SLOW in getting to know the person. <br />
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Best of luck in your search for love. :)

I agree with you RestlessLegend, we need to remember that its not all about me me me but try to look at things through the other persons perspective.

I'm sorry if I offended you. That was just how I felt at that moment in time. I'm trying to lessen my prejudices against everyone.

I know I'm way unrealistic I need help to get out of wherever I am am get grounded in reality

i think its time you be realistic, men are not here to break hearts, and honestly you probably have problems in relationships BECAUSE you think that of men. i am engaged, i couldn't dream of hurting her, maybe you need to think about that