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Its Just Everything

It's not that I have a specific thing I feel self conscious about -- I don't.  It's just that I get around people and every little thing I do or don't do or want to say or whatever - I picture it in my head & worry how people will see me - what they will think.

 

Because of this, I don't work on being less self-conscious - I strive to grow into not caring what people think..lol

kylae77 kylae77 31-35, F 7 Responses May 1, 2009

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ha ha that's how i feel. I think it's why i have a hard time making friends...cuz the whole time someone's talking to me...i'm thinking they are just being polite or feel sorry for me -- ugh! It's so silly! *sigh* but it's getting a bit better. : )



people have told me (in person) i come off as being very confident lol! i am to a point, but also insecure. : P

*thx* god bless : )

ps i think the hard part is knowing, in my mind, the reality....but that doesn't change the emotions i have to work through to get past it......: )

thanks retiredfather - i do keep working at it.....i appreciate the encouragement! i try not to *share * TOO much lest i be a big mouth know-it-all......lol

I can tell my your stories, that you are fairly intelligent.



Please do not fear interaction.



Keep working at it.

Be ready to share what you know.



It will help others.

Well, it started with me working through my issue that made me feel like everyone was better than me.



After that, accepting and appreciatig myself as I am



As for the not caring part - I've been starting to see people in a more ddetached way - like, they are no different or better off than me - it's not like they have things figured out - and when they do - they won't be pompous about it. I am just as smart & just as good as anyone - and I feel so much more free when I don't care as much. Like before I felt everyone was somehow an authority - and now I realize they're just the same as me. And since I think for myself - I DO for myself - and so I stand out sometimes. That's a GOOD thing - not embarrassing. ANd sometimes me being me makes other people feel like they can be them.



Now put me in front of the guy I thought was my soul mate and rejected me & ask me to repeat that.......but don't hold your breath lol!

I feel the exact same way and for this reason I don't have friends really. I always feel as though I am being judged and that everyone is better than me. I interact at work with people in a business manner cos I guess that is the one thing I feel confident enough to do. I too want to not care what others think of me..If you figure out how please share your knowledge =)