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I Am Separated From My Husband

I Wonder If He Feels Anything?

By: cablegirl01
Written on October 26th, 2010
I realize that men and women think and feel differently. I have been with my husband for over 10 years. We have both agreed that we want a divorce. I have no desire to be with him! Here's my question, does he really feel nothing? I am mourning the end of the relationship, hell I have been with this man for a long time. I am sad that he will not be part of my daily life anymore. I am sad that it has come to this. So, being separated you have good days and bad days. Some day I am fine other days weeping and emotionally shattered. My sbtx, says he just breaks everything down logically and is fine. Why do I feel like he should have an emotion? Not asking for more than one, he might strain something! Can you really be with someone for this long and feel nothing? Any other men have some words of wisdom here? Or is it as simple as my stbx is just a delta bravo??
By: cablegirl01
Age: 36-40 , Female
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    morogoro
    morogoro

    You sound such a soft, caring person , analyzing. So unfortunate what you have to go though I though communication would help to reciprocate,

    Jan 27
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    WindSweptCowboy
    WindSweptCowboy

    You seem to have special intensity. This is good. People who are not as sensitive as you may not understand.



    You are good to look for a person with whom you can connect and share.



    All my best.

    Jun 13, 2012
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    janec319
    janec319

    First, let me comment on your point that you have good days and bad days. Take heart, the good days will become a lot more frequent that the bas ones. As for you being affected more than him, I think that depends on the partners involved. Some guys are devastated, some just seem to roll right along unaffected. That being said, the important thing right now is for you to take care of yourself. Don't waste a second of your time worrying about how HE feels, or how HE is coping.

    Happy and rewarding lives don't just happen, they have to be built, slowly, pain-stakingly, and with constant self-evaluation.

    I've been re-building for nearly two years now and I am SO much happier than I've ever been. Just take thinks one day and one small step at a time.

    I wish you success and happiness, and offer you whatever help and support I can give.

    Oct 27, 2010
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