This Was My ChoiceI got separated and moved out from my husband about 4 months ago. I’ve made the decision to leave him about 2 years ago but things just never worked out for me to move out. We’ve been together for 10 years and in those 10 years we’ve been married for 3.
I can honestly say that the first week I moved out I was very lonely and was use to having him around but as the days go on I know I made the right decision. I’m myself again; I do what I want to do without wondering if what I do will upset anyone.
It is hard, don’t get me wrong and now I only have one income and that has to last me, but I won’t change it for the world.
We have a 4 year old daughter together and for her we are still friends and we to talk to each other and still have drinks or coffee when he or I pick up our daughter. I like the relationship I have with him now as I don’t have to please him anymore.
I was a different person around him and my friends even saw that. I am an outgoing bubbly person but around him I was subdued and almost shy.
He told me the day I decided to leave him (when I told him about 2 years ago) that I will never find anyone that would love me the way he does, and I started to believe him. He would also start playing on my insecurities just so that I must believe that I will never find anyone like him.
Don’t get me wrong, he will always be a part of my life and I would stay friends with him for my daughter’s sake but he will never ever manipulate me again. And trust me he has tried but not living with him I see straight through his plan.
This was my choice and I LOVE IT.
KNell 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 Oct 11, 2010