It's Unfortunate

I wish I wasn't.  I have always been a little shy around new people, I have to know them a while to really be able to open up.  If you would ask my husband or close friends about it, they would probably say I am not shy at all, but that is because I have known them for years. 

It has always been hard for me to make friends, I usually always waited for someone else to approach me. It seems to have gotten worse instead of better over time.  I am taking college classes, and have a difficult time talking to the people who sit next to me.  We have group projects coming up and I am dreading it. I am smart and know what I am doing, just talking to these people is difficult for me. 

I was discussing this with my husband yesterday and he laughed.  He said when I met him I wasn't shy at all.  I had to point out the fact that if I have a couple of drinks in me I tend to open up a little faster.  He said maybe I should have a couple before I go to class. 

I always thought that I would outgrow my shyness, but I am still trying to work on it.  When someone starts talking to me, I feel sort of stupid, like I don't know what to say.  I know that I am not the only one that struggles with this, but I want to know how to get over it.  It isn't rejection that I am scared of, and I really don't care what other people think of me, so why is it so hard?

J21883 J21883
26-30, F
1 Response Feb 25, 2009

Hi J, I am new to the site and have only just read your experience. I am sorry to hear that your husband thought to laugh at you when you tried to be honest with him. In my book, shy people like me, are the better person, they have more respect for others. I have always had problem with my shyness, it is why I too find it hard to talk to people face to face, but online (maybe it is because I can hide behind the computer) I can be the person I want to be. I joined a website which you can chat to people around the world and become friends. I too don't know what to say, so I stick to talking about things which interest me, like reading and music, Perhaps you can try this too