Reaching My Own Bar

I am a human being.

I am not your version of a human being...I am just a human being.

I do not do things to better fulfill the idea that you have of what I should be. I do not want to be the person you want me to be. I just want to be me, and I want to be accepted as such. If I'm not accepted then I at least want to be unaccepted as ME (i.e. not trying to be someone else's version of me).

But I know that being judged is a part of life; there's nothing you can do to change it. I also know that even those who change themselves in reaction to being judged are fighting a losing battle. My battle is not to avoid judgement by others, it is to meet my OWN requirements.

I set the bar high for myself, to be the person I admire, the person that inspires me. I don't jump to reach other people's bars, but if I happen to surpass a few of those in the process, that's fine too. If not, well...those just aren't the ones I'm reaching for so it doesn't really matter.
shannonymous shannonymous
18-21, F
1 Response Nov 30, 2012

"I don't jump to reach other people's bars........those just aren't the ones I'm reaching for"
Agreed. Build your own frame of reference and don't allow yourself to penned-in by someone else's. Framing is everything.
Here's a great quote from Henry David Thoreau on the subject:
"If a man walk in the woods for love of them half of each day, he is in danger of being regarded as a loafer; but if he spends his whole day as a speculator, shearing off those woods and making earth bald before her time, he is esteemed an industrious and enterprising citizen. As if a town had no interest in its forests but to cut them down!"

not sure i would have chosen that particular quote to go along with judgement, but whatever :)

My frame of reference has an economic tilt, thus the emphasis in the quote on society's judgement as a "loafer" vs. a "timber speculator."
As John Kenneth Galbraith noted in "Anatomy of Power", there are three basic tools: carrots, sticks, and culture. If you've amassed enough money, you can bypass the carrots and sticks, and you've only got the pesky beast of mass-media to fight. Money is and will always be a key component to building your own frame of reference -- the all important ****-you money that lets you walk from the rat race. Without it, you've got to fall back on a winning personality or a supportive organization (family). Otherwise, the whip will crack incessantly until the bar is reached.

too philosophical dude

Why the judgement?


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