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I Am Sick of Being Single

I've Been Single My Whole Life.

By: Aust222
Written on August 26th, 2011
I am afraid I will never find love . I have been single my whole life and there is no hope in sight. I am slowly giving up and can't maintain my broken heart anymore. I'm too damaged to keep moving. I want love to save me, but that is just in unrealistic fairytales. I have been rejected my whole life, and have never held hands with a girl, never kissed a girl, and have never even been on one date. All my friends and everyone I know has had at least one person in their life. I haven't had any... I fear I must let go of love and forget about it in order to move on in my life. I'm scared of the emptiness and sadness of it though, and that has kept me carrying my broken heart around. I'm not unattractive, and I'm not fat. I'm healthy, and look average. I can look really good too if I put my mind to it. I am romantic and sweet, it's just no girl will give me a chance to prove it. I am lost and don't know where to go from here...
By: Aust222
Age: 18-21 , Male
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9 responses
  • Fienchanny
    Fienchanny

    stimo...I think you meant to say, "girls your age typically CAN'T appreciate..."



    And stimo's right. Don't rush it. You're young. Embrace the things you like doing. Do them well. Take pride in yourself and your gifts. It'll happen.



    Rushing things will only result in resentment, anger, etc. Trust me on this one :-)



    One thing you might consider...dating older women. Just a thought.

    Jan 10, 2012
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    • Aust222
      Aust222

      Thanks, I know I'm just eager and foolish. I would like to try dating older women it is just I have no clue how to even approach that? Like I have a hard enough time around girls my age. Plus how do I know if a older woman is single? Or if she'll even date someone my age?

      Jan 11, 2012
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    • Fienchanny
      Fienchanny

      Oh, hon...that's the thing. With older women, you don't have to worry about the games. You'll know they're married if they're wearing a ring. You'll know if they're interested when they smile, wink, flirt, etc. with you.

      Jan 11, 2012
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  • Fienchanny
    Fienchanny

    stimo...I think you meant to say, "girls your age typically CAN'T appreciate..."



    And stimo's right. Don't rush it. You're young. Embrace the things you like doing. Do them well. Take pride in yourself and your gifts. It'll happen.



    Rushing things will only result in resentment, anger, etc. Trust me on this one :-)



    One thing you might consider...dating older women. Just a thought.

    Jan 10, 2012
    1 like
  • stlmo8
    stlmo8

    I forgot to add... girls at your age typically can appreciate "nice, attractive, romantic." They live in DRAMA. You don't need that. I know you're eager for love, but wait; you want someone who wants you for who you are!

    Aug 27, 2011
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  • stlmo8
    stlmo8

    You're too, too young to be worried about this, so intensely, so soon! Believe me, you'll change and so will others your age - a lot - in the next few years. Change your focus for now. Focus on becoming the best version of YOU that you can be right now. Make good friends. Develop your interests and career. Love will come when you're ready for it! Sometimes when you "try" too hard, people pick up on it; it seemed like I was always coaching my sister about her love life, pointing out that she was so desperate to be like/loved that it was overwhelming to other people and that would scare them away.



    There are always lots of females doing volunteer work. Try that! www.volunteermatch.org.

    Aug 27, 2011
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  • charriot1925
    charriot1925

    It may sound odd, but if you stop trying to find love, it will happen. What are you interested in? Art, ham radio,reading? Pursue your interests and the other will come. The best way to get a girl is to

    share her interest. Collect stamps and get in a stamp club, join a car club, join a band or a

    church (that's where there are lots of girls). Get in the group and have fun and the girl will come.

    Lovers look at each other, friends look at what they're interested in. Genuine interest first, then thew other will come.Good luck.

    Aug 27, 2011
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  • Mmmcherries
    Mmmcherries

    aww this is sooo sad! surely you can do something?

    Aug 27, 2011
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    • Aust222
      Aust222

      I've tried so many things. I've tried dating site, such as eharmony, ect. I tried going on blind dates, and I just don't know what I'm doing wrong. I think I'm cursed. No one will give me a chance.

      Aug 27, 2011
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