Alone and No Mate In Sight

I am

a girl in her 30s

had 3 relationships

I have

dark hair

bright eyes

listens to Lisa Ono & reads Paulo Coelho

laughs out loud

a size 6

day dreams while travelling

loves the smell of freshly baked bread

likes sharing her candy with the people at work

I want a simple guy who would be a friend and a mate.

Whoever you are..you sure are taking your time. Its been so long and there have been so many people telling me to be patient and the wait would be worth it and that its better being single.

Funny how its all the married or injured people who tell me that. So why can't I feel it? Why can't I feel that this wait would never end?

I am so tired of being alone while everyone is with someone somewhere. So weary of lonely nights without dates. I can't remember how its like holding hands with a guy anymore.

A normal looking girl who just wants a normal guy, from a girl who doesn't even dare to ask for what she used to.

Its been almost 2 years since I've been on a date.

So I guess..there is really something wrong with me.

 

brightonion brightonion
26-30, F
21 Responses Apr 10, 2007

You sound delightful :)

Keep your chin up, and just remember. Mr right is never just around the corner but never too far away. Go get him!

You are not alone, a lot of us are going through similar stuff.

Wait until you're my age and people are STILL telling me "he" is out there somewhere!

Hahaha I know that one, for me it hurts too much to see couples cuddling and holding hands, happy. When I think that I don't have anybody who can walk with me, laugh with me, caress me. It really hurts. What did we do wrong to deserve this kind of life? Sometimes I just want to scream to God and ask him: - of who's rib m I coming out from? I am 54 now and still lonely. I work, earning a reasonable salary, have a house, but it is empty. I go out a lot to social gatherings, Business meetings, Church, but it is like men are afraid to approach me. All the men that show interest in me, they are married and I want my own man, I don't want somebody else man.

One would think that a normal girl looking for a normal guy would be the easiet thing in the world but apparently it is not. I have just so given up on all this, my clock is ticking and I can not just wait for mr normal to show up.i want my kid to have 2 parents, i know so boring. but i want that for my kid. I turn 35yrs in a few months, i dont wanna have kid in my 40s. So either happens now, well not now, now but soon or am just not having any. I think am starting to sound extreme.lol

I really hate to mention this. Just fyi There are a lot of guys who just don't like cats. There not going to tell you that. But if you knew then it could help you.
Why there are several reasons. Cats are smelly , who wants a litter box in there house? Not me. Cats carry a parasite that makes people actually crazy over time. look it up on the web its real not made up. Ditch the cats, go out on a good date. Just my opinion. Not everyone is going to agree. You sure cannot make everyone happy all the time.

As a male, I totally feel the same way> I have one friend out on Vancouver Island I have not seen for for a while due to our schedules.I also have a friend in the praries I have yet to visit again. I also have a friend from high school backj in Ontario,Canada I have yet to try to try to get a hold of. I am getting sick of these momotonous weekends. Laundry, recycling, groceries and errands. I cruise the craigslist sometimes, but sometimes I am too tired too meet up or that won't work with my schedule.

I been divorced now for several years and got divorced because my then wife would not stay faithful to me. And this may sound unreal but her mother was the cause if that's even possible to believe. Because I would not sleep with her mother She my ex wife went out and slept with other men. Ironic I know. but I just don't keep a gal who is not going to be faithful. So anyhow back to my ad of looking for a great woman to seriously love.
I am looking for a seriously good hearted woman to love and be loved by. I want a life long loving and kind relationship full of real love and laughter for each other.
I just want one good gal to love and build a life/family with.
First come first serve ;). please write soon.
So I would like her to be easy going, loving, kind and caring to me. Loves a lot of closeness and affection. A lifelong lover and best friend.

Thanks for looking. please write soon if you are the one...

Hey guys you people give a chance closest to the person you can relate with and grow to love which works rather than waiting to fall in love at first sight like someone mentioned here. It works big time. Just take a chance and go for it. It is totally worth it.

There is nothing wrong with you, have faith in the universe, and it will give you what you want, once you have experienced what you need. Besides, you like a great author,, Paulo Coelho. My favourite as well.
Noel

I am 42, single for loong time now. have a teenage daughter who is very independent. I am loving, sensitive, emotional, smart, intelligent, giving, caring but havent found my kind of a man.........isnt it sad?

I been divorced now for several years and got divorced because my then wife would not stay faithful to me. And this may sound unreal but her mother was the cause if that's even possible to believe. Because I would not sleep with her mother She my ex wife went out and slept with other men. Ironic I know. but I just don't keep a gal who is not going to be faithful. So anyhow back to my ad of looking for a great woman to seriously love.
I am looking for a seriously good hearted woman to love and be loved by. I want a life long loving and kind relationship full of real love and laughter for each other.
I just want one good gal to love and build a life/family with.
First come first serve ;). please write soon.
So I would like her to be easy going, loving, kind and caring to me. Loves a lot of closeness and affection. A lifelong lover and best friend.

Thanks for looking. please write soon if you are the one...

i am sure it is the married (etc) people who tell you to be patient and wait. It will be worth the wait. But in the meantime it freaking hurts. We are looking for the right man and he is not around. I have been waiting for 16.5 years. been divorced for just as long and am still single. nothing wrong with me, nothing wrong with you. we want to get married and have not found the right guy yet. I know what you mean about people telling us to wait and be patient and it will be worth it! holy cow!!! get a grip people!! it freaking hurts all the time. I understand.

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Am just turned 36 and am single for 2 years now. My last relationship was going no where and when I broke up with her she decided to truly destroy my life. I am now picking up the pieces and trying to move on. I must forgive otherwise I wont be able to move on. I now am looking for NO users, leechers, I am not a rescuer any longer and no psychos! I want a girl that has goals, knows what they want out of life and not just going to sit on the couch and do nothing. I want to have a family and settle down with a nice lady that does not judge. I dont judge and dont believe in people that judge.

I feel what you are going through. Its not easy recovering from a bad relationship, feeling used and abused. Its good to hear that you are moving forwards to a better tomorrow. I read alot to help me with my healing, with books like "Mastery of Love" and "Emotional Intelligence". It helps to put some sense to what we feel and are going through.
Good luck! Being single is a good time to gather ourselves before we meet a better version of ourselves out there.

Bm you just described a gal I once knew. kinda sad really.

I just want to encourage you ladies not to give up hope. I am single as well and I do have my 'moments' but it does have it's positive side as well. For all the single ladies who are looking for happiness or just trying to figure out how can one possible be happy while single check out my book 'A woman's guide to being Single, Satisfied and Saved." at www.siropub.com. I talk about things to do while waiting on the one and things you can do that could get you the one!<br />
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Sincerely,<br />
Ashley Lounds-Brooks

i felt the exact way too,.i am 25 years old, i broke up with my first boyfriend 2 years ago, i suffered emotional and physical torture with my ex though i can't seem to hate him for that even though his own family and friends were at my side still i tried to cover him up,until i finally decided that i have to let go , it was the lowest pit of my life thought i can never get out,. i loved him so much but the pain he inflicted on me crushed me to death,.after that, i was never been attracted to anybody, and thought about being single for life..but oftentimes i feel lonely, same like you, all my friends have their own family and boyfriends, i made a lot of excuses not go during gatherings, i hate the feeling of being left behind,standing in front of happy couples .i always tell my self, i have nothing to worry about, i am single, have a degree and job, i can do whatever i want in life. but still there is this inner cry inside of me longing to be loved and cared for. ..i'm sorry if i cant give you any advice about that because i myself also is still searching for all my questions left unanswered..

i felt the exact way too,.i am 25 years old, i broke up with my first boyfriend 2 years ago, i suffered emotional and physical torture with my ex though i can't seem to hate him for that even though his own family and friends were at my side still i tried to cover him up,until i finally decided that i have to let go , it was the lowest pit of my life thought i can never get out,. i loved him so much but the pain he inflicted on me crushed me to death,.after that, i was never been attracted to anybody, and thought about being single for life..but oftentimes i feel lonely, same like you, all my friends have their own family and boyfriends, i made a lot of excuses not go during gatherings, i hate the feeling of being left behind,standing in front of happy couples .i always tell my self, i have nothing to worry about, i am single, have a degree and job, i can do whatever i want in life. but still there is this inner cry inside of me longing to be loved and cared for. ..i'm sorry if i cant give you any advice about that because i myself also is still searching for all my questions left unanswered..

really feel for you hon:but regrettably cannot touch you

I am 29 and never married. I have been praying for marriage for about four years now but nothing has happened (not even close). I keep praying - I think single people who want to marry have two choices: 1. Dwell, pine and create a deep depression or 2. Hope for the best.

or 3.) Do enough drugs to take your mind off of the loneliness. Some people try option #2, eventually become despondent when the hope runs out, then enter into phase #1, and, when that gets old, ultimately end up at #3.

I wanted to say something helpful/profound, but instead all I have to offer is that you're doing better than me, I'm still on zero relationships at 31 years old...

ive been single for 8 years and its kind of my own doing, i like sometimes being single then there aretimes where i feel alone and miss the company of a man, ive been on dates but no one has grabbed my attention and kept it, the men are fall for are usually complicated and dont want a commitment.<br />
your not on your own with sometimes wondering why your still single there are many out there who feel the same.<br />
chin up.

Heh, or maybe all the wrong places found me instead!