...Like a Friggin' Force Field...

...I really want to be with somebody, not just anybody, I mean, someone who cares for me, someone who would think about me, someone I could hold...

...But it's like there is something wrong with me...I mean i'm human enough to be a friend...but that seems to be the limit...stop, done, nothing else...

It feels like...there is no place for a guy like me to have a succesful relationship in a world of today...

...*Sigh* I'm amazed I still continue trying...thinking that somewhere there is someone who would love me...

...But it seems like that kind of person is as rare as me...

7HIR7YS3V3N 7HIR7YS3V3N
18-21, M
4 Responses Apr 12, 2007

I understand how you feel. You give someone all your love and support hoping the feeling will be returned. And then they fall in love with someone else and pat you on the head while telling you what a good friend you've been. You have force yourself to smile while you feel like dying and them that you're happy for them. I've walked down this road a time or two. This may seem cynical advice, but try to hold back and not give them your all up front. Only give what they are willing to give. Make them work for it and make sure they undertand you are most definitely worth the effort.

It IS a force field. I had to teach my sister that desperation is a powerful thing. People of the opposite sex can smell it a mile away and RUN in the opposite direction. I think if you focus less on the "relationship" thing and get yourself involved in things you like to do - clubs, hobbies, sports, volunteer work, classes - you start feeling more confident in yourself and will be meeting people who have the same/similar interests. Some of the best volunteer work I've done was with Habitat for Humanity and for a dog rescue group. LOTS of really great people. When you relax into being YOU, people will be attacted to THAT!

forget hang in there! what people mean is get out there!! your 18-21 so ur legal, go out and party with some friends! buy a girl a drink! the worst thing she will do is say no and at least then you've gone out there and can start to tell which girls are ******* and which are nice :)

I feel the SAME way. It leaves me to think "maybe it's me" I'm not gonna give you the generic "you're young. Your time will come" speech. I've heard it a million times and I am sick of it. I will say however, hang in there. You're not alone. You're probably a great guy and girls may not be able to see it.