I'm Kinda Sick Of It At This Point

I know how you feel because I'm a 61 year old single male in the same situation.I've been engaged 4 times but never to the alter.I'm also looking for a female to go out with but the only responses I get are people that want to use me.

I am just like you, but in college. Literally, I could copy-paste your post and it would be pretty much indistinguishable from my life. Literally the only difference is that my female friend denied me via the internet and not in person.

The truth here is that unfortunately most of the ladies that get treated poorly by their boyfriend are attracted to guys like that as a result of their relationship to their fathers. They desire the attention and approval that wasn't offered by their fathers but the worst of it is that they aren't aware of it. It is a completely subconscious act. By you being a good guy and showing them due respect from the beginning you don't fit the profile of the guy that the want. There's no thrill in the chase because you're already offering it. Don't change though. All men need to have respect for women. They have girlfriends shoulders to cry on in need so be one of the guys and the guy who takes charge but leave an element of mystery about you. Good luck

sorry but this is life and it sucks, girls like a lot of attention but we are so complicated then when someone give's us everthing...well that is just to easy try to give them attention and then be indifferent let them be those who want you re attention.
Good luck.

Thanks for the support. But honestly I don't shun anything or anyone. And yes I've heard of that book yarn I just never bothered to read it cause what's the point. It ain't gonna help. Worst part right now is that I'm meeting up with that girl I like and she's bringing her boyfriend so I can meet him.... Cause apparently I'm a sibling now... :'(

Hi again. I just went to amazon and found a book that might help explain things a bit.
It is called 'Changing Your Game: A Man's Guide to Success With Women'.
Reading the editorial review and the comments, it seems like a reasonable book not one of those 'how to get her in the sack' that are so misogynistic.
Good luck and remember that a lot of other men are in your shoes. If you find something that helps, make sure you share it here!

My son had the same experience as you. It seemed he was always put in the 'friend only' category through high school and the first year of college.
Girls of that age frequently view confidence as attractive without recognizing that it is bad when coupled with being self centered. I believe it is an evolutionary built in, as confident men in primitive times meant they were healthy and could provide food for a mate and their children, as well as protect them physically.
Fortunately the smart young women learn to weed out the selfish as dating material.
By the time my son was in his second year of college, his growing confidence and young women wising up, meant dating was much easier. Then it was his turn to learn how to weed out the egotistical girls. And those types can be persistent!
Today he is in a good relationship with a cute young woman who is intelligent, they share a sense of humor and love of learning which makes their lives compatible.
Try to use these years as a time to concentrate on your career plans, be a good friend but not a doormat, to friends and family and be good to yourself.
I would recommend 'Men's Health' magazine. They not only have articles on exercise, healthy recipes but cover understanding women better, even an article in a past issue4 on how not to be put in the 'friend' category by a woman. And a monthly article where readers ask a wise older bartender for advice is priceless!
Remember, your attractiveness to the opposite sex will increase in your twenties, but building your confidence now will earn you positive results in all aspects of your life.

Unfortunately a lot of girls these days go for the guy who looks good but doesn't care about them. Don't give up, especially being a senior high school you have so much more to look forward to. Love will find its way, don't rush it. It will happen when it is ready to happen.

Sincerely, the 20 year old single girl.

No, just continue being yourself. Might not now, but eventually in time someone special will come to you. I get friendzoned a lot of times too and I'm 22.....

You are young, Nash , and i know youre sick of hearing that, too...
One day if you keep plugging along FAITHFULLY and SMILING, someone RIGHT will fall somehow in alignment with your life , needs and desires. No one is an island.....
There is always someone out there for someone else. Dont be too particular about the little things. YOU just might miss out on a very sweet and lasting friendship by shunning someone you dont think "matches"
Give it some thought and put on that smile! Good Luck!