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I Am Sick of Being Single

Am I Am Idiot?

By: An EP User
Written on February 2nd, 2013
This has been on my mind lately....

I go into meeting friends (female friends) thinking a potential relationship might happen. I just realize that's a terrible thing to do. It only leads to me being hurt. Am I stupid for doing that?

It feels like a natural instinct but I am just not going to let it happen anymore. I am just sick and tired of doing that to myself. It has lead me to make some great friendships but I think something might happen when deep inside I know there might not be a big chance or even no chance at all of anything happening. It hurts me in the end. And it does make me feel somewhat bitter which I do not like being.

I am definitely working on it. It's hard.
By: An EP User
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4 responses
  • vx95
    vx95

    It is you, acting in ways to put yourself in the friend Zone! You can change that by stop being so bland. You have to make it known that you find her attractive. You desire her.

    Feb 2
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  • OneIsTheLoneliestNbr
    OneIsTheLoneliestNbr

    Probably the best bet is to try to find out ASAP what sort of friend they see you as, so you don't waste time thinking about something that will never happen and you also don't inadvertently drive away someone who might be attracted to you.

    Just ask her if she'd like to get together some time for coffee or whatever (very casual and low-key) - you'll know by her reaction if you've got a chance with her or not. But you've got to do it the first time you meet her (or worst case the 2nd time you encounter her) - wait any longer than that and you'll find yourself inextricably trapped in the dreaded "friend zone".

    Feb 2
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  • willyg2013
    willyg2013

    I know what you mean. I mainly only take to females and want the same thing. Though it very hard to know when you find the right one. It ok what your doing but don't expect something too soon. Take times to build something up.

    Me I just had someone left me a few weeks ago. I thought I had something but I notice some bad signs too. I wish you best of luck finding someone.

    Feb 2
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    • vx95
      vx95

      There is no "one" but there are the many. Get experience.

      Feb 2
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