Seriously- Don't Bother.Okay, I expect a bit of flack for this, but I really feel the need to express my stance on this subject, seeing as how I've received (and continue to receive) friend requests from those who have either a wife-sharing fetish, or engage in the practice of wife-sharing.
Let me just state that I am very, very open-minded about A LOT of things involved in the sexual realm. Wife-sharing, however, completely hits the wrong chord with me. I understand that some men are turned on by watching their wife (or others wives) with other men, simply because they find her incredibly attractive, and furthermore, because they like the idea of other men finding her attractive as well; yes, I get the general gist of it. Still, this whole fetish just... perplexes me.
I mean, come on... if you truly love your wife (and I'm assuming that you do, seeing as how you proposed to her at some point) why not have more respect for her as an individual? Why not view her as "yours" and only "yours," that very statement and ability being one of the loveliest rights entailed in your documented, romantic union? Why even commit to marriage at all, if you're only planning on keeping the sexual boundaries of your relationship as open and free as two singles might?
I just completely, utterly abhor the whole idea of it... I'm sorry if that seems judgmental, but I do. I believe that marriage is a sacred covenant between two people, with or without a higher power involved; it is a serious commitment and partnership of love and virtue that deserves so much more respect than an "anything goes" sort of approach. Allowing ones wife, or even just encouraging her, to engage in sexual acts with other men completely depletes all meaning from the basics of commitment, and therefore, the root of wedding vows as a whole. Where is the substance and purpose in your unity? Where is the proof that you two have chosen to bond to, love, and cherish each other, and each other alone?
So, yeah... Don't waste your time in adding me, because I don't like the whole "wife-sharing" thing. I don't like the fact that men who share their wives and women who allow themselves to be shared are draining all truth and power from the purpose of marriage; it's complete hypocrisy and a bold contradiction to marriage in and of itself.
I think that these men and women should have more respect for their partners, as well as themselves.