Grah, Dad.

Oh, man. He's the worst at this. Especially if I've failed at something. I should have always done everything his way. Period. Because his way works. And my way doesn't. And if I don't fail, its always something like, I would have done better if I had done it exactly as he'd said to, because that's just how it is. 

Psh. I understand that he has a lot of experience with a lot of things. I get that. Its awesome. I love that he tries to help me and gives me advice, but there comes a time when it starts to feel a bit like a direct attack against my adulthood, pride, and who I am in general, when he outright blatantly tells me that even if I succeeded, it would have been so much better if I'd just done it his way.

I've gotten to the point that I just, "Uh-huh." at him when he's doing that, and pretend I'm listening. Horrible of me, I know. But if I say anything else it'll start an argument. 

iFortiTude iFortiTude
3 Responses Feb 17, 2010

Yeah same here.
I'm such a failure because I don't take his "advice" when it isn't even advice it's literally him trying to sail my ship

One of the greatest experiences of my life was earning my dad's respect. I understood what he was trying to impart in me. I just preferred doing things in a quiet and unassuming way. Some of his lessons are part of my life. A few weeks before he passed I learned that I finally eaned his respect.

You will hopefully appreciate his experience one day. Hopefully, it will not be too late for him to hear it from you. :) but I do understand your present frustration with him. Keep an open heart and mind with him so that you don't grow further apart. It was only when I got older that I realized that my mother and father, albeit limited in their education and modern experiences, had way more wisdom and correctness than my haughtiness would allow me to see. Best wishes!