I Am Sick Of The People Who Bring Negativity In My Life
I don't have many friends. I have aquaintances, but not many close friends. I am dealing with some personal stuff right now and I needed someone to talk to. I could not reach any of my closer friends right away, so I made a mistake and called someone who used to be a close friend but has turned into a bad friend. I guess I decided to overlook that fact when we met up for a coffee and I told him some of the stuff that was going on.
My live-in boyfriend and I have just broken up. We are dealing with breaking our lease early, finding new apartments, all that fun stuff along with losing each other even though we're best friends. Well that part is complicated but trust me, he's not a jerk. He's being very decent about it but now he is my ex, and it's hard to deal with everything. On top of that, if you can believe it, my job is cutting back on my hours and my contract might be cut short, so now I'm also job searching.
I mentioned some of this to my friend. He listened, then responded that this is the reason for why he would not move in with someone unless he had been dating that person for at least five years. He knows that my ex and I moved in after dating for 1 year. I don't think he intended it as an insult, but ouch! It was like a little stab, telling me that he would have done things differently so that he wouldn't be in my position?? Thanks a lot!! Because dating someone for 5 years really guarantees that you will never ever break up. I don't think so!!
Then I mentioned an apartment I was excited about, and he said negative things about how the buses that run near the place aren't very good. Even though I know for a fact that they are fairly decent and they will serve my needs just fine. Thank you for finding something wrong with the one thing I'm actually excited about. I'm trying to be positive and he's just being negative when it should be the other way around!! He complained for a bit about money, and stupid stuff like that, not to be rude but I don't care that your bedsheets are of poor quality. At least you have a job and a place to live and enough money to afford it! Don't complain to ME, at least not right now!!
Anyway, I am sick to death of trying to be positive and uplifting when he is feeling down and then I need him to do the same for me and he doesn't. I should have known that would have happened. I have enough things to deal with already that I don't need somebody bringing me down, but in a way it was kind of my own fault for choosing to talk to him. It just sucks to see that a friend isn't much of a friend anymore and cannot be depended upon. So now I don't talk to hardly anybody. It makes me feel very alone. But I'm staying in touch with my aquaintances and hoping that someday there will be more good friends in my life that I can count on.
My live-in boyfriend and I have just broken up. We are dealing with breaking our lease early, finding new apartments, all that fun stuff along with losing each other even though we're best friends. Well that part is complicated but trust me, he's not a jerk. He's being very decent about it but now he is my ex, and it's hard to deal with everything. On top of that, if you can believe it, my job is cutting back on my hours and my contract might be cut short, so now I'm also job searching.
I mentioned some of this to my friend. He listened, then responded that this is the reason for why he would not move in with someone unless he had been dating that person for at least five years. He knows that my ex and I moved in after dating for 1 year. I don't think he intended it as an insult, but ouch! It was like a little stab, telling me that he would have done things differently so that he wouldn't be in my position?? Thanks a lot!! Because dating someone for 5 years really guarantees that you will never ever break up. I don't think so!!
Then I mentioned an apartment I was excited about, and he said negative things about how the buses that run near the place aren't very good. Even though I know for a fact that they are fairly decent and they will serve my needs just fine. Thank you for finding something wrong with the one thing I'm actually excited about. I'm trying to be positive and he's just being negative when it should be the other way around!! He complained for a bit about money, and stupid stuff like that, not to be rude but I don't care that your bedsheets are of poor quality. At least you have a job and a place to live and enough money to afford it! Don't complain to ME, at least not right now!!
Anyway, I am sick to death of trying to be positive and uplifting when he is feeling down and then I need him to do the same for me and he doesn't. I should have known that would have happened. I have enough things to deal with already that I don't need somebody bringing me down, but in a way it was kind of my own fault for choosing to talk to him. It just sucks to see that a friend isn't much of a friend anymore and cannot be depended upon. So now I don't talk to hardly anybody. It makes me feel very alone. But I'm staying in touch with my aquaintances and hoping that someday there will be more good friends in my life that I can count on.