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I Am Single

No Boyfriend Since Birth

By: zazzily
Written on June 3rd, 2012
I have no Boyfriend since i was born. But I have crushes on boys too. I know how it feels to be single. It's lonely during Valentines Day, I'm envious with other couples holding hands together, talking intimately, cuddling..But you know why I'm still single until now that I'm 21? Because I was really serious with my studies and I think having boyfriend could destruct me in my studies. I also have no time for befriending guys and socialize in parties. Furthermore, I was afraid of unprepared pregnancies, I'm afraid of being hurt in a relationship, I was afraid that my boyfriend would cheat on me and I end up self pity. I could describe myself as a pretty, smart and understanding girl. But I think no one really likes me. Whenever I have a crush on someone and if he knows it, I think, he's keeping himself distant to me. All of the boys I like doesn't like me. Moreover, I have a cleft palate. It's not really that severe because I can still speak clearly although there's a little hypernasality on my voice. I'm afraid I would be ending up an old maid.
By: zazzily
Age: 18-21 , Female
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  • Daiyu
    Daiyu

    You're just like me I have no boyfriend since birth, I'm 22 years old, Dont worry, who knows love will come to you when you least expect it, continue to love yourself :)

    Feb 8
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  • loveispatient34
    loveispatient34

    ah dont trip - valentines day is just another day of the year - couples talk intimately and the hold hands and cuddle every day of the year - what is so special about valentines day? what can you do on valentines day that you cant do any other time of the year - you know - so just take it easy and enjoy life - thats what its all about

    Dec 26, 2012
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    • zazzily
      zazzily

      I'm used to it:) anyway thanks..

      Dec 26, 2012
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    • loveispatient34
      loveispatient34

      you're welcome - good luck and keep your head up

      Dec 26, 2012
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  • Zeraku
    Zeraku

    I was like you when I was in school. I am 22 right now, and I stayed single until after I graduated from High School. I already had trouble focusing in class, and didn't want to have a Girlfriend to make it even harder to focus. I was also more reserved back then. I wasn't able to show my feelings like I should have. I let a wonderful girl slip away, and now we don't even talk anymore. I am sure that you will find the right guy for you. Just remember to always be yourself, and don't let anything get you down. You are wonderful as you are. If you have to change to be with someone, then that someone doesn't deserve you.

    Jul 7, 2012
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    • zazzily
      zazzily

      Thanks for that wonderful advice:) Yeah, I believe that the right guy has not yet to come. Love can wait:)

      Dec 26, 2012
      1 like
  • tawam
    tawam

    hey dont think that way sometimes people are so afraid to come when they know that the woman is so smart and so bright not because of physical outlook but because men are easily intimidated by scholarly and bright woman considering your background im sure you are so bright and all.Dont feel bad later on when you are in medical school alot of people you will met across and i guess you will find that your cleft lip is not a hindrance and im sure you will have a boyfriend then.

    Jul 7, 2012
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    • zazzily
      zazzily

      thanks for that wonderful advise! actually I have a cleft palate not a cleft lip:D,

      Jul 7, 2012
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    • tawam
      tawam

      oh im sorry i see your photo and i think you look normal so nothing to be ashame on that and because you are more intelligent men feel embarrass to approach you in every way so i guess much better to put it in normal level and im sure men like me always appreciates women with intelligent and beauty lies to the beholder so i guess when the right one hit you im sure you will have all the love you want and all the feelings of being love too.LOL

      Jul 7, 2012
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  • Sheldon69
    Sheldon69

    I totally admire you for waiting and I know that one day you'll meet a totally nice day who deserves you and treats you right! Cheesy but, hope it's true! X

    Jun 28, 2012
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  • AngelBornInHell
    AngelBornInHell

    duude! i know how u feel, i feel like that all the time, In HS i didnt really care if i had a bf cuz school was my 1st thing in my mind, yea i would look at guys and envy girls with bfs. I would hate seeing couples at my school, Now thats im 20yrs do i want a bf? hell yea.. but sometimes i think that no guy would like me cuz of my insecurities and never being an a relationship. I dont believe in love but i guess ima have to wait. U have to be patient i bet when u dont expect it ull catch a guys eye! :) good luck!

    Jun 28, 2012
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    • zazzily
      zazzily

      Thanks for that advice:) Yeah, love can wait:D

      Dec 26, 2012
      1 like
  • Eligh5
    Eligh5

    Whys everything in the world have to be competitive and aggressive? Take your time with it, know your own limits of time, because in reality all it boils down to is time. If you could manage studying medicine and having a personal love life without feeling overwhelmed, you just got what a life with love is. Lol and for searching of love, just get friends. Choose the ones that have the best quality in your eyes, and eventually the friendship can become more. Don't let your negative sides control and speak for you as a whole. People will like you, they just need time to get used to you, by being friends or just talking once in a while. The ones to like you instantly will most likely give up on you the quickest.

    Jun 4, 2012
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    • zazzily
      zazzily

      Thanks for that wonderful advise:) I'll try it:)

      Jun 5, 2012
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  • aazrin
    aazrin

    I dont want to be rude but thats alot of fear. who dares win, its that simple be little more aggressive. seriously, I think you have a lot of good quality, just keep searching and you find someone who love you back.. X)

    Jun 4, 2012
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    • zazzily
      zazzily

      Thanks:)

      Jun 6, 2012
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  • Unique4real
    Unique4real

    You never think much about anything about the talking thing as you are a girl that know what she wants in her life, so you never had a bf so what as you made it to finish studies and so far you did a well nice job in making your mind up to. You don't rush and know that you can have a relationship and just be cautious and just enjoy your life, as if we stayed afraid from things we will neevr do anything, wish you good luck.

    Jun 3, 2012
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    • zazzily
      zazzily

      Hi! Thanks for that wonderful advise! I'm really pleased with you having commented a very consolidating and informative comment on my story:)) It really helped me a lot:)

      Jun 3, 2012
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    • Unique4real
      Unique4real

      You welcome, as glad i did much of help as i know what you have been going into, just if needed any time talk or just talk to led things out, will be there :).

      Jun 3, 2012
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