I Know I Won't Be Single ForeverI just turned 28. I have never had a proper relationship with a girl or woman. I was diagnosed with Aspergers 8 years ago and this explained a lot. When I was in school and college I had little if none of my own identity. I grew up watching Saved by the Bell, Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, California Dreams and the rest. At school and throughout my teens this is how I thought the world worked. As a result I didn't understand the social rules that surrounded me and everyone around me seemed to understand like breathing.
I eventually realised that this artificial, unrealistic and imported American fantasy didn't even really work or even exist like it was portrayed in America let alone here in the UK, especially in my school among my 11-16 year old peers.
I have since tried online dating websites, asking girls I like the look of for their number and going to clubs etc. Nothing has worked.
Nowadays, while I am looking forward to being in a relationship I am not so desperate that I am willing to go to a club full of people, who I may have a lot in common with if we were to get to know each other in the right setting but meeting in a club just starts us off on totally the wrong foot. And while that may have started many a long lasting and happy relationship, I have learned its not how I want to look for her.
In my opinion, the purpose of marriage is to create a stable, loving and nurturing environment for the raising of children so that they may become upstanding citizens and agents of positive change in this ever advancing world.
So with this in mind, I would like to find someone who is as enthusiastic as me or even more so about creating this environment for our children.
I am looking forward to finding this person, but while I am waiting I am striving to become the person that the person I wanna spend the rest of my life with is gonna be attracted to in spirit, mind and body. I could spend my whole life in this endeavor but when I meet someone whose willing to give me a chance I'll be happy to start a process of growing together.
Thank you for reading my story
Zekastian9 26-30, M 6 Responses 1 Jul 11, 2012