Cheers

Best of luck to you. I don't know you, but from what I read you see to know what you want, are willing to put into a relationship what you expect in return, and do it all with passion, on both sides of the bedroom door. Sounds like someone out there is missing a great find by not spending some time with you.

Too bad we live so far apart. I would gladly be the man to do the things you wish.

Divorced 4 years. I quit going to bars as well. Like you, I cherish my independence, but still would like some intimacy in life. People ask me all the time, if I'm dating. I say, No. They ask why not? I don't know. I've never believed in "The One" before, but now I find myself waiting for just the right guy. I quit putting myself out there. Ugh. I lost the thread of why I started to respond to your story. lol

Yeah, I agree to all of that from a mans point of view, I like people that are self reliant but still know what relationships are for

I would married you

Hey, wondering what type of path to take myself. My wife recently left me so no idea to decide who I want to be... Also kinda worried about being alone (always been better in relationships) but damn dont know of I want to go through this pain again. Do feel I will need to go out though, just not sure if it will be to pick up women. Personally I would rather use a dating site (never have before and not thinking of doing it soon) than picking up a woman in a club or bar, but then thats maybe just me.

You and me both. I have been divorced for about 10 years my ex fell in love some jerk on the internet. When went to live with this guy he turn her int a streetwalker.When the Judge ask her why she simply said I just married him get custody of my son.
I to miss cuddling next to someone and treating that someone like a LADY.

Sigh) Never had any of that.

Dont foeget about doing some Vol work at Red Cross or at your local Hosp.

The simple pleasures that are meant to share in life. Yes you deserve to share your life with someone.

I am with you...totally. ~D

If want to change your life in next 120 sec change your pic on ep this pic is laying you back change it immediately now come on ,there is no logic behind this but do it now ........

I am looking for a good natured sweet heart of a gal to love and be loved by, Interested?
: )

Your Welcome ! Your on the right path!! Bless you!

I also was in a terrible relationship . We were almost married. Its true that others on the outside see what you can't when your blinded by love. Oftentimes lonliness takes us to dangerous places, you got out of an unhealthy relationship only to feel empty and lonely. I am also feeling that way but the flip side is that He can no longer abuse me. We both probably need to seek some type of counseling so we can feel whole without a man. Then we may find the right one. I have dated a few men but they havent been right for me. I have been celibut for a month and one of the fellows I had dated is trying very hard to win me back. I am not to be won unless he is the right person. I have made up my mind. I wish you the best Blue62dragon!! I understand! HUGS!!

Yes blue62dragon, I understand how you feel. I have been seperated from my wife for a year and I am waiting for the divorce to be finalized. We were married for 40 years, but things and people change, the kids are all grown up and it was time to move on. I have been avoiding intimacy for a while, but now, more and more I am missing it. I spend much time on the beach. It's cold right now but beautiful. It's too cold to ride my bicycle, as winter in the Northeast is starting to settle in. I do have many male friends and I keep busy, but most of the women I know are married or too young, and the single women my age are too old. You are the peferct age for me! I'd love to perform blue69dragon with you *sighs*.

Thanks for your post . . . I have exactly the same feelings. It is so lonely climbing into an empty bed, but it sure feels good waking up without my ex in the morning! Here are a few things I have done that help:
1) Started a book club . . . lots of laughs and wine when we review books.
2) Hikes and walks with girlfriends
3) Get a cat or dog
4) Became a volunteer lighthouse docent. Learned a lot of history; meet people from all over the world; develop healthy friendships with men and women who share my interest.

God bless you..I know

It is encouraging that someone is out on their own doing things the right way. You should be proud. And enjoy the time you have to yourself as well. And be patient, the right companion will come along for you.

I'm only 22 and have never been married but I feel the same way sometimes. I love not telling people where I'm going (except the babysitters) but hate always sleeping alone. I like sleeping alone most nights though, people in my bed make my back hurt. Lol. What I hate, is the days when nothing is going on and I sit around all day by myself because I am working on getting my life together and my car decided to break down.

Yup, as Seemysky suggests: you may (or will) have much more success meeting a companion at a time and place that involves more common interest than a bar or nightclub!

Start a new Hobby!, you'd be surprised at how many genuine blokes you'll meet whilst indulging in you hobby! Do you like surfing by any chance? I would gladly teach you.

The worst thing about being single is that feeling of missing a person to cuddle with, a person to share the good times and the bad....and the thought of having to set out as a single person trying to find someone is hard!

I'm in the same situation. I used to meet guys in bars. Tried that a few times, never want to try it again. Then I started meeting guys in the gym. I'm considering throwing that option out of the window too! The only difference between bar guys is their limited consumption of alcohol, but their minds are on the same things.
I would consider going to church but I find it hard to find a church that matches my beliefs.
I find being single hard sometimes too. But what I have experienced shows me that being in a relationship is usually hard too. I want to be happy being single but I also want to 'get out there' and meet people. It's hard to find a balance between the two.

Good Luck. I hope you find him soon. I'm recently seperated and i'm dreading having to go through the dating scene again. Im not a church goer but i've considered it just to get myself out there and meet new people.

Just keep smiling. He'll fall into your lap when you arent looking.

good luck dragon and keep your head up

i know how you feel i have not been with a woman in 3 years or longer and it sucks big time.just someone to hold and to tell that its going to be alright or to have her do the same.just to hold hands while walking down the beach enuff getting loney

hopefully you find someone soon :)

A great way to meet men that are not drunks is to take some adult education cources at your local community college