I Just Keep On Coming Back For More..

Couldn't agree more! Time to shut him down. He thinks he can just come back to the friendly confines of a good woman whenever things don't go his way....

So true, ambroseguy! I've known a lot of men like this....thankfully, I just knew them and was not involved with them...the poor women were SO sweet and trusting. You live and learn....we all have our own lessons... and we are all still learning.

Yes we are! It's easy to say "stop the abuse", and yet look at how many times I go back and let my wife employ other sorts of abuse!

Because you love her....Lol

A little less each day! lol

We are all gluttons for punishment of some sort, ambroseguy....
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bad, bad, bad..Lol....
We are supposed to be setting a good example... haha

Thank u to everybody for showing such amazing support..I have only been on this site for mayb a week or 2 and I'm still amazed at the amount of kind words I can get from strangers and yet the people we spend so much time and effort on , those people can't muster enuf energy to throw a thank u out if it was gonna save their lives lol!

Ur honesty is so refreshing and I tend to believe strangers above anyone I know personally from my everyday life because they lie to lie even if the truth sounds better they just are too use to it so they lie because its now apart of who they are.. for example, the things you say about your wife on here is obviously from your heart because you don't owe any of us anything and we don't have anything to hold against you so you speak truths and its nice to hear. There is something very comforting about knowing that when you ask a question no matter I the answer is gonna be a little hurtful or the best news you have ever heard , this person is just saying it because its just that and nothing more! I'm greatful to everyone that has shown me a path cause sometimes I feel so lost and that's new to me because I've always been the one to give the advice and not get it and perhaps mayb I shoulda been practicing what I was preaching back then lol

It's SOooo easy to see and act on other people's issues, rather than your own. I wish I had taken more advice when I was younger... I think I rolled my eyes a lot, kinda like my daughter does to me.. Lol!
Keep moving forward...we never said it would be easy....but, it will be worth it.

I finally did that and I stopped convincing myself he really wanted to be friends , he just kept me around as a " friend" so he could get cash or have someone to talk with if he was bored or whatever cause he certainly wasn't returning any friend like niceness such as callin back when he said he would or he would only txt me when it was like 11 or 12 when I knew whatever girl he was talking to wasn't available or whatever his problem was for the day :) !So it took everything I had to delete all numbers and email and everything that had to do with him because I was the one looking like a stalker cause I couldn't leave my ex alone. It's been like 10 days so far actually 12 days if u count the day I had to tell him bout his Craigslist thing but I kept it under 5 sentences and as soon as he said he got the message I jumped off the txting and let him go so I didn't leave any openings for xtra conversation cause I know I would get sucked right back in

I hope it goes well - you can always send me a message if you get the urge.

This is a very positive step - showing respect for yourself. You're giving yourself some much needed - and much deserved distance - from this person who's only interested in using you. It's a common desire among women and men to be a rescuer, and not an utterly bad thing, but we also have to keep in mind that we need to be willing to rescue and nurture ourselves, or there's nothing left for others.

U make very good points and I just read a story about a poor women that is dealing with the most profound issues an it really makes me look at my problems and say " really??" I mean this just goes to show me I need to stop whining and crying and pull my **** together and stop worrying about someone that isn't concerned about me... Right? Lol thank u so much for ur advice!!

It's also very wise of you to set limits on how much you explain. State your case and cut it off, as you did. I've known so many women who try so long and hard to explain why they have to get/stay out, and all it does is entangle them again. Guys like this are expert at pulling well meaning people back in inch-by-inch. They debate your points and milk your compassion. You're right to keep your limits and keep your power. Congrats!

Now this is easy to say now lol and lord help me if by some weird chance I run into him cause he's got a smile that just melts me lol but I know we live in different towns so I'm not overly concerned with that but I came across like 4 pics of me and him during happier times and instead of bein all hurt and upset I just kinda chuckled and stared for a moment and I didn't erase them cause like it or not he was 5 yrs of my life and I don't think even he can totally wipe me out of memory after 5 yrs of raising his nieces and bein with him however, he never cared enough to call and see how I've been or anything so he's gone and no more talking about him cause it would be different if there was a chance but I've already decided even if he came crawling bk today I wouldn't be able to what's the point of crying over something I know I can't have and it's of my own decision as well...I shouldn't put that kind of torture on myself knowing it will just hurt more again later....nope not again :)

Thank u for saying that cause I must say it means more coming from a stranger because I believe it more lol.. People that know me I just assume they say those things out of respect or a feeling of "have to" so thank u again for that, u said it when I needed it most,

Thank you so much and honestly sometimes you just need a reality check and have someone b honest like you were and say "hey stop bein dumb cause you know better, cause lord knows I do lol" and yet there for a minute I was just so hurt that I was a huge tower of emotions and I never want someone to go without if I can help it in anyway but like you said it's time for me to take care of me!! Thx again for great advice