I'm Just Going To See What Happens

So, about a year ago, my 4 year marriage came to a screeching halt.  After 2 years of being dead inside and pretending to be happy, I finally figured out it wasn't going to get any better.  I told her I was done and wanted out, and at first it seemed like things were going to go smoothly.  Was I ever wrong.  My Ex used our daughter against me, refusing to grant me visitation.  I am a good father.  I love my daughter and believe it is very important for me to be part of her life.  After she went nice to ***** in 0.5 seconds, I knew for sure there would never be any reconciliation.

About a month after she moved out, I met a girl who I was very attracted to.  She was very attracted to me and pursued me hard core.  I am a no nonsense, put everything up front kind of guy.  I don't like to mess with a woman's emotions or use them just to gratify myself physically.  I told her up front there were a few things she would have to accept if she wanted to date me.

  1. My daughter comes first.  Always.

  2. I can't move.  If the relationship was to workout, eventually we would need to move closer....and she would have to be the one to move. (It was a long distance thing)

So, she was fine with these...for a time.

Any time I wanted to take a nap or go out with friends, I was accused of not wanting to spend time with her, which resulted in a 2-3 day fight.  He would get jealous of my time with my daughter.  Well, things went on like this for several months.  We'd have 2 great weeks, and then a huge blowout fight over something ridiculously stupid like not spending enough time together.  I mean, WTF?  My daughter goes to bed at 8, I go to bed at 12.  4 Hours a night isn't enough?

Well, eventually she admitted she loved me.  I thought I loved her. Things started getting serious from there, and the blowouts became less frequent.  On a few occasions the relationship was actually ended, but we came back together an hour or 2 later.  After one such time, she said she would definitely be moving in 2010.

Well, let's fast forward 4 months.  She suddenly disappears without warning for 2 days.  Her phone - straight to voice mail.  I had no way of contacting her.  Up until then, she had acted like nothing was wrong.  Well, after 2 days she comes back and admits that she can't and won't move for me, ever.  Se says that she's been lying about it the whole time just so I wouldn't end the relationship.  I promptly end the relationship.

I've been single for a while now and am enjoying it, actually.  I can take a nap if I want without fear of having to fight for 2 days over "No, really, I was tired".  I've decided that I'm just not going go looking for a relationship.  It's nice to just be able to just live life and not have to worry about ******* someone off all the time.  Lessons learned.  I'm just going to wait and see what comes my way.

SpiritualFighter SpiritualFighter
26-30, M
1 Response Feb 13, 2010

Oh, I was moved on about an hour after I ended things. I tend to sever myself emotionally from people quite well, sometimes to my own detriment. I'm ready for the next relationship, but in no hurry to start it.