Why Not Me?

I'm a 20 year old sophomore in college. I have a few good friends and know alot of people, but it doesn't seem like anyone ever wants to hang out with me and I don't get it. I enjoy working out and have been involved in athletics forever. I have a 3.5 gpa and I don't want to sound egotistical but I'm a pretty good looking guy too, I take care of my body. Yeah sometimes I'm shy when I'm around people I don't know but I don't think that's it. I never go out and talk bad about people or party and do stupid stuff. I just don't get why girls never seem interested in me. I had a girlfriend at the start of my Freshmen year but that lasted all of 3 weeks, and that was the first real girlfriend I've ever had. I just don't know what I need to do to get girls interested...Maybe I'm doing something that turns them off, or I'm not outgoing enough and should just ask someone out if I like them. I just wish I could find some girl to be with so I wouldn't feel so lonely all the time. I know I would take care of and respect her like she deserved but it just doesn't seem to be working out for me. I've felt hopeless about this for a while now...................I could really use some honest advice   

runner22 runner22
18-21, M
5 Responses Mar 13, 2010

Just be yourself. I find guys with a sense of humour are totally my type. I can't say the rest for other girls. Yeah, I think before you get a gf that you just gotta start mingling and flirting, it is fun and harmless. Start up conversations, even if your shy there can always be something to talk about, and yeah hope that this helps.

Thanks guys, I appreciate your positive thoughts. I think what I might need to do is be a more positive and happy looking person when I'm around other people. I get depressed alot and I probably wear that emotion on my sleeve which isn't appealing........ Maybe if I start letting girls know I'm interested without just coming out and saying it I would get some positive feedback

well dude....my honest advice is may be u r better than them....u'll find someone who suits u someday..its better not to question ur own credibility...just dont doubt urself...be cool and simple....this world is strange..more u run after it, more tensions,depressions and problems...just be urself dude!!

Tacit is right. Sometimes you just have to take that extra step and be a little more forward than you usually are. Other than that I see no reason why a women wouldn't like you. You seem like a nice guy.

I think that you should try asking some girls out. Its possible they may feel intimidated by you and/or might have no idea that you like them. From what I understand attractive people are often not approached because people don't think they would be interested in them. Maybe that is happening?