Could Use A Little Advice
I started dating this buy a few months ago... we hadn't really committed to anything,... one of those, this is cool, lets see where it goes things... last friday, i told him i was over it.... ( for like 6 times in a row, i asked him if he wanted to do anything, his response was "na, i'm just gonna hang by myself tonight" .... I didn't want to be made a fool of, and told him this... i told him i wasn't interested in being a whenever he was up for it kinda girl... previously everything has been really awesome, we click, have a blast, are really cool together... not like anything i've ever experienced... like .. a really good thing... so i started really opening up to him, and letting go of all my fears, then he pulled the , i don't wanna hang out thing, and i pulled back hard.... he asked me to come over the other day, after i didn't call him for a few days... made me dinner, we had a long talk.... put it all on the table, that i wasn't interested in a fling, but admit, i suck at relationships,( im 30 and bounce on every guy I date, after a few dates, and never make it to the boyfriend/girlfriend level.... I asked him before leaving his house, just to ease my mind, said, " hey, you're not hangin with other girls are you, the way you hang with me." he said , "no, but i was, I ended it though" so when he was pulling the 'i dont wanna hang thing' he was cutting ties with her.... i accept that in the beginning, when there's no commitment it is what it is,... i actually was shocked at the honesty.... for the past few days, I only see him when he makes the effort, but it's back to being that cool thing we had befor.... i dig the **** out of him, and we really have an obsene amount of things in common, not to mention an ability to be open ( so i think) thats super cool, and he calms me like no one has..... i don't want to be made a fool of.... should i be concerned about the fact that he was hangin with another girl when i met him, that he never brought up.... he's always been honest with me (just aparently didnt tell everything, but never lied), and i know this because we happen to be from the same home town, and we know all the same people... hes quiet about dating,but as much as that shocked me, i don't feel the need to care... we are still new, and are taking it slow. any opinions or advice?