I Hate My Body

Love yourself the way you are! It doesn't matter what you look like, there will always be people to criticize. If you're quite thin, well good for you, there's a whole host of health problems you don't have to worry about! Plus most people are not thin these days so the people that are attracted to very delicate frames will be crazy about you, with not a lot of competition.



I do see how people might unfeelingly comment about your weight...they just don't understand, that's all, they don't mean to be unkind. So many people would give so much to be thin that they can't comprehend how your feelings might be hurt. Just try to understand, and love yourself just as you are.

I could have written your exact story.



People's comments are unneccessary, uncalled for, insensitive and downright hurtful.



I don't understand how anyone could think it's okay to say "you look like a toothpick", but hell, I hear it all the time.



One of my good friends once looked at a photo in a tabloid of one of the Olson twins and really loudly in a crowded supermarket said to me "hey, look, someone who's skinnier than you!" I almost died. And this is one of my *friends*!



People are morons. So what if you're skinny. I've tried a ton of stuff to gain weight, nothing works. So - I'm just hoping that in time my metabolism will slow down or people won't be so snarky anymore. Probably the metabolism thing is my best bet. Heh.

It is interesting how people who are skinny (like I used to be) tend to cop public judgement and semi-private envy. And people who are overweight are more likely to be subject to public sympathy but are subject to harsher private criticism, or more gently made remarks. Little surprise that both groups of people feel rather victimised at times over their weight, even if for slightly different reasons.



On a more pragmatic note, what sort of weight do you want to gain?



That might sound like a strange question, but there is the option of gaining fat or gaining muscle.



If you want to gain fat, just reverse the advice given to people who want to lose weight. In particular, snack or dine late, and eat calorie dense foods (ie those high in healthy fats if possible), and eat a lot of carbohydrate post-exercise.



If you want to gain muscle, then you need to eat more protein, and do weights. (You will not ever, ever look like a female body builder, unless you take steroids. With your body type, it is verging on an impossibility to look bulky or even remotely muscled! Toned is certainly attainable though.)