I have been married to my husband for 8 years now. Our marriage was wonderful at the beginning. Then, after being married for 8 months, he took a job in another state. I would go see him every 4 to 6 weeks, for a few days. I couldn't stay long because I had young children. Every thing changed. He got to where he wouldn't have anything to do with me when would go visit. He would call me every few days. Another 8 months passed by and he got a job closer to home. I got to see him more often, although it didn't change anything. I have tried talking to him and explaining how it makes me feel, and it just gets worse. 5 years later, we are much worse. He will go for days, even weeks, without speaking to me. He has absolutely nothing to do with me physically. I am at a point where I don't know what to do. I have no friends to confide in. And my sisters just brush me off. I am always home alone. He doesn't do anything with me or our kids.
lonelyhousewife66 lonelyhousewife66
51-55, F
5 Responses Aug 23, 2014

How can a woman of merely 48, presumably physically and emotionally healthy, live without an occasional romantic interlude, an occasional French, suggestive whisper in her ear or a downright seduction act on the dance floor, you tell me?

You should divorce I am serious

Where do you live? ToutesSaisons

I used to be a happy person. I am no longer that.

He wants nothing to do with you physically you say? Well there are plenty of people who would. I suppose you can't depend on your significant other for everything, but physical and emotional intimacy are important to a romantic relationship.
Go find a group to be a part of in your community. There are always people who could use your help. Are you part of a church or anything? Do you have hobbies?

Activities and hobbies only help for so long. I am a stay at home mom. I have no income. He handles all the finances. He gives me a certain amount of money each week, just enough to cover groceries. Therefore, I don't get the opportunity to do anything or even go visit anyone. All I get to do is sit at home and stare at the walls. I have thought about leaving, but I have no where to go and no funds to go with. I am in between a rock and a hard place

Go on Craigslist and find someone to go on walks with. You can only go as far as you're willing to try. You're not stuck, you're just afraid.
What do you think you need then? What other conceivable thing is there? If you need him get him. If he doesn't give you what you need then find someone who will.