My Dad Died And My Mom Is a *****!

Before I was born, my dad was killed by a train, I really wish I could have met him, but I guess that doesnt matter! Anyways, i think that my mom tries to make my life hell for some reason. Every time she is around my sisters ahe treats me like **** and i am so tired of it, but when she needs something, she doesnt call them, she calls me! She always tells me how bad I look and I need to do something with my face and if I tell her i dont want to do everything for her, before getting off the phone she will just hang up on me w/o telling me she loves me or anything! She used to beat the hell out of us from time to time. She once busted a cup over my sisters head, busted her nose, beat me with a belt and everything...I dont know if  her having problems with her childhood, and that my dad died and she never had help with me, is this why she is so damn mean to me. IDK! but, i sometimes forgive her and sometimes, i get so pissed. But I love her and I am going to have to try to forgive her and I am going to have to stand up to her and tell her I am sick of this mental abuse.
stevi stevi
18-21, F
22 Responses Sep 13, 2006

Stevi, I sympathize with your plight. It could be unresolved grief, you could look just like your dad. My husband died when I was, relatively, young -43. I spent a year incredibly angry at him. It was very strange. Is there someone- an adult- at school you can talk to? I think it is important that you are acknowledging that this is mental abuse- despite the reasons. You are setting boundaries and that is very positive.

You will be okay. I'm not sure what you can do for your mom. It is time to build a support network and to begin taking little tiny steps toward your independence. Both of my grandmothers' were also widowed young, but they never really recovered. But both my mom and dad turned out fine. They had to grow up young though. Try to find support, stay in school, keep good grades, and continue your education. You will be okay.

I remember I suffered a lot as a teenager, I had to help in the house (do most of the cleaning and washing really) and take care of my younger brother, who is a special kid. My parents had divorced when I was a child and I know for sure my father didn't/ doesn't love us anyway. Anyhow, I remember my mom being very violent and calling us names that hurt a lot. She was going through early menopause, she had bipolar-like mood swings, and she had problems at work. Those days were very sad, I felt I had nobody, on top of that we moved a lot, and in an era before the internet, well I had to make friends every six months and then lost contact with them and had to make new ones. With the time, after my mother was able to overcome her problems, after my brother and I have grown up, well, she's changed so much, so much indeed that she's now a friend. I can call her whenever I have a problem and she's always willing to help. My advice is try to find out if your mother is going through something at the moment, and if she is try to be patient and tolerant with her. If that's not the case, and she's just plain mean, remember no one can tell you who you are or what you are worth, except for yourself. You create your own destiny. And always remember, you are here for a reason. Soon you'll be old enough, and you won't have to put up with any more abuse.

kinda the same mum my mum sounds like your mum a *****. dad cool but always tell me that your mum treat her well bla bla i never consider my mum as a mum i see her as a F***** ***** good thing my dad got rid of his shotgun or else there would be a very large hole in her head

kinda the same mum my mum sounds like your mum a *****. dads cool but always tell me that your mum treat her well bla bla i never consider my mum as a mum i see her as a F***** ***** good thing my dad got rid of his shotgun or else there would be a very large hole in her head. i wish it was the other way around in your case mum get killed father lives. but then again you never meet your dad.

My mom is SUCH a *****. She always want ME to do everything (im only 13) and my brother (hes 19 !!!) just play on PC. I hate her. I have to do anything she says cuz if no she would say to my brother and he shout at me and forbids me something. I rly wanna move out of that ******* flat and live somewhere else. I would do anything to make her regret!

Your mother is acting out because she feels lost and angry. You can love her without allowing her to hurt you once you realize that her actions speak to the disfunction in her and it's not about you at all. My mother and I were in a love/hate spiral for many years until I stopped stopping by -- then I became someone she had to be nice to in order to get to see. We've had a great relationship for about twenty years now. Just two days ago she asked if I remembered how it used to be between us (how could I forget?) and then told me how much she enjoys our relationship now. I just smiled because I know that I haven't changed...

If it wer me shed be dead by now

If it wer me shed be long dead by now

y would you forgive her because i still dont forgive my mom because she beats me with a metal spoon until i bleed no matter what i do to her i have to do what she says or i get beat up and i cant resist or she beats me worst then that

y would you forgive her because i still dont forgive my mom because she beats me with a metal spoon until i bleed no matter what i do to her i have to do what she says or i get beat up and i cant resist or she beats me worst then that

I once had a psychologist tell me of my parents: "You don't coddle cancer, you cut it out" Something to think about. ;)

i wish i could hve being there for u too solve ur probls .but i wll pray to god to help u soon as i too hve major probls with my parents n with d grace of god i got married to sumone who loved me alot but bcoz of my mothers worst behaviour n my dads strayng habbits i myself developed probls of depression and insecurity all d tme even aftr marriage even aftr loving my hubby so much i cant trust him as i can nevr trust anyone bcoz of my parents worst behaviour i sufferd alot i lost my brothr in an accident bcoz of my dad as he was drunk tht tme whn he was drivng i saw thm fighting screaming hitting each other it was scary to be alone .even i wantd to kill myself most of d tme but death n birth is sumtng a human cant hve any control ovr it ....i really feel its bettr to be orphan thn to hve such immature and selfish parents who gve birth to d child for there own satisfaction n doesnt hve sensibility to cherish a new life which is already so innocent n dependent on thm .but in future if god gves me a chance to be a mom i wll definately nourish my baby with peace n security n if i am not able to manage myself thn i wll not plan for any baby as i nevr want to do d same thng as my sick parents r doing with me...hope god wll help all of us sumtme.....................

If you can forgive her, then you should feel proud of yourself.

**** forgiveness life is nothing but a deep dark hole of desperaity for people such you and i, i hate my life soo very very very much. my dad hardly talks 2 me, all he does is show off his truck,bling, and money and sell drugs to idiots. my mom treats me like **** and won't let me go any where not to hang out with friends, not to do anything! i stay in my room all day and i hardly talk 2 anyone, i have a girlfriend but i can't go see her, my bestfriend is "banned" from my house and i'm "banned" from talking to him. I hate my life SO MUCH i feel soo alone all the time. when i get really angry i always end up hurting my self in some way or another like i almost broke my hand punching my door fr<x>ame and i almost passed out when i headbutted my wall. I'm tired of hurting my self and i'm tired of being told what to do and what not to do i just want peace, and happiness IS THAT 2 MUCH TO ASK FOR!! as i am writing this i feel like my body might catch a flame just from how angry i am i hate my life so much i just wish things would go my way just a lil bit just a tiny bit man.

**** your mom. i enderstand you completley. <br />
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move th **** out, and when shes an old **** and need your help paying for her ******* bills for her coke and medical ****, then you cant tell her to **** off. thats the sweetest revnge.<br />
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**** the world. were kings.<br />
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-m.s

i'am 13 years old and my father has died on jan 15 2008, its still really hard for me to get over the fact that he is gone. I know how you feel my mom is a huge ***** and i hate her, i want to move out and get as far away from her as i can. She always goes out and I think that she is ******* my dads besfriend, i think that i'am in the same situation as you because i have no idea how to handle my mother.

I signed up to this website to comment on your plight. I too have issues with my mother, nothing will change between you and your mother. You need to refuse being treated as second rate and build a great life for yourself, a life your mum will be proud of (no! you will be proud of.) After your success, Your mum will be saying a taught that kid everything they know before long.

I signed up to this website to comment on your plight. I too have issues with my mother, nothing will change between you and your mother. You need to refuse being treated as second rate and build a great life for yourself, a life your mum will be proud of (no! you will be proud of.) After your success, Your mum will be saying a taught that kid everything they know before long.

I dont feel so alone now thanks. my moms a ***** toooo.

MY MOM IS A ***** <br />
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i and my mom our living together my father is dead when i was 5 years old one day i so my mom hadding and taking to somebody and i went out at night when i came back the door was locked from out side so i had the back door keys so i went in and so that the bedroom door was locked from inside and some noise very coming so i slowely looked in the key hole i so my mom having sex with 3 guys crazy sucking dicks and getting ****** by those freak guys i was gone mad looking that.so i want out and came after 1 hour and my mom was acting as if nothing had happed in this case what should i do.......

it's good that you can forgive your mom for being so mean some people can't and regret it later. telling her how you feel is always a good start. Good Luck I wish you the best

You are a really sweet person... Dont let nobody walk over you, Someday your mom will regret of all of this...