Stuck Like Chuck
I have been in this marriage
for 19 yrs and I truly do love my husband but he has some ways about him that I totally hate. Okay, we own a bar and I manage it but I do have a problem with alcohol which is not the right thing for me to be going through. I am in counseling for this very thing but my husband doesn't believe that I am going to quit drinking. I say I am stuck because I have MS and basically survive on disability and don't ever have to ask my husband for anything...until now. He said I am not to work at the bar until I get the problem resolved and I have to give him $700.00 a month to live here and he is going to collect the money they were paying me to run the bar and he is gonna take over the paperwork and such duties. I have a major problem with this because for one my husband doesn't have a regular job and when the bar doesn't make money he doesn't collect his typical $2000.00 a month just for being part owner, he is now attending college fulltime and the only reason he is able to do that is because my disability enables him to use my money as his household income and in the state where we live-the state assists with such endeavors. He has become quite controlling and he says because I have become manipulative. I am working on my problem with the alcohol but it didn't happen to me overnight so I feel he should be more supportive and patient. When we were first married my husband got two DWI's which I had to help pay for those and he still goes out and gets drunk but it is okay for him he says he don't like it when I get drunk because I am too voicterous. I am that way when I am sober too he just doesnt pay attention. I hope somebody can shed some light on this for me.