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My Husband Has Been Gone For 5 Days

Ok we have been together for 6 years I love my husband more then anything in the world he is my everything! He has a drug problem he tries to get clean by him self but it only last about a week and then he takes off some times for a day some times for multiple days right now he's been gone for 5 days . We have 3 kids that I have to take care of that I have with me 24/7 but he can just get up and take off and stay gone for days and leave me by my self. I feel so abandoned I'm heart broken and I have so much anger towards him cuz he keeps doing this to me . I told him I can't do this anymore but honestly I can't imagine being with out him when he's not using he is such a good guy he makes me so happy. But when he goes on his drug induced hiatus I feel like he dosent care about me. He said he needs help cuz he wants to be a better man for me he came home last night and was telling me he was gonna go stay with his cousin (who is a Christian ) cuz he feels that that will help him get back in to church( we use to go 2 days a week) cuz he needs god to help him change. At first when he came I wasn't angry I was just sad but then reality hit me and I got so angry I was calling him all kinds of names and telling him I hate him . I do hate the person he is right now but I love him soooooo much ! It kinda hurts my feelings that he didn't ask me to go to church with him. I don't know what to do I feel like he dosent even miss us when he's been gone for so many days I'm so hurt I don't know what to do someone help me please!!!
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Reading your story was like reading my own,minus the kids. My heart breaks for you. My husband has been gone 5 days,which is his normal,Im to the point of wondering if he'll return. This time I feel different about his vanishing,its like I almost dont care & that I find extremely painful. Ive been dealing w/my own demons lately,which hes aware of,& this doesnt help me. Like alot of ppl,I have trust issues,as a child the 2 ppl I trusted the most lied to me for l4yrs.,Im not angry at them but it sure set the seed for a ****** up life.

Reading your story was like reading my own,minus the kids. My heart breaks for you. My husband has been gone 5 days,which is his normal,Im to the point of wondering if he'll return. This time I feel different about his vanishing,its like I almost dont care & that I find extremely painful. Ive been dealing w/my own demons lately,which hes aware of,& this doesnt help me. Like alot of ppl,I have trust issues,as a child the 2 ppl I trusted the most lied to me for l4yrs.,Im not angry at them but it sure set the seed for a ****** up life.

Reading your story was like reading my own,minus the kids. My heart breaks for you. My husband has been gone 5 days,which is his normal,Im to the point of wondering if he'll return. This time I feel different about his vanishing,its like I almost dont care & that I find extremely painful. Ive been dealing w/my own demons lately,which hes aware of,& this doesnt help me. Like alot of ppl,I have trust issues,as a child the 2 ppl I trusted the most lied to me for l4yrs.,Im not angry at them but it sure set the seed for a ****** up life.

Reading your story was like reading my own,minus the kids. My heart breaks for you. My husband has been gone 5 days,which is his normal,Im to the point of wondering if he'll return. This time I feel different about his vanishing,its like I almost dont care & that I find extremely painful. Ive been dealing w/my own demons lately,which hes aware of,& this doesnt help me. Like alot of ppl,I have trust issues,as a child the 2 ppl I trusted the most lied to me for l4yrs.,Im not angry at them but it sure set the seed for a ****** up life.

Get out while you still can. The longer you stay, the worse it will get. I'm speaking from experience. I've been married to an alcoholic for 44 years and have heard the I'm so sorry speech so many times I could give it myself.

Unless he's unconscious in hospital for 5 days this man does not deserve you. His and your kids also deserve better.

Consider some tough love...when (if) he comes back. He either needs to go straight to rehab or live away from the family till he is cured. You certainly don't need him.

I so feel for you - you are in a terrible place. I hope this ends well for you and your children. I pray you find happiness and peace and stability - love and hugs to you. Xxx

He's probably with another woman. Doubt he'd want to come back to an angry wife and 3 yelling kids; who would?



You don't really have a husband. Throw him out, divorce him and save yourself the trouble of worrying about it any more.