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It Is So Very Sad....

but there is a certain member of my family that has disappointed me beyond forgiving.

My twin brother has always been "concerned" for me. But the problem lies when his concern goes beyond mentioning it and speaking to me in order to better understand or get the correct info from the proverbial horse's mouth. He is trying to make me choose things for me as he would or according to what he believes is "right". But here is the kicker.....I am me and fully capable of making choices on my own. I am a big girl, able to make sound choices about my life, my finances, my children and anything else for that matter without the watchful eye of , well anyone! Being a 30 year old female who has survived a marriage of abuse, rape and mistreatment has taught me quite a bit. So, for someone to think I need their opinion or approval to live my life "properly" in their eyes makes them poorly mistaken in my humble opinion.

I am not stupid, I am not dumb, I am not blinded by stubbornness or spite. I am a woman of moderate beauty, knowledge that I have learned along the way and strength gained from the struggles that have come to me both caused from mistakes and good fortune. I appreciate your initial thought of helping or attempting to keep me safe......but remember all of what I just listed above and BUTT out! Don't even begin to think that my life is in need of you or in any way a mess that needs to be "fixed" by you.

My name is Meg........and I am just fine. Too bad unconditional love and support is beyond you :-(

MegJgeM MegJgeM 31-35, F 18 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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More than anything, I wish that I had someone who cared enough about me to try to lend me a bit of advice. I don't have a relative. I see you as a most fortunate individual. My hope for you is that one day you will be able to benefit from your good fortune. Meanwhile, turn a deaf ear as suggested here by others.

i am only 15, so i don't have to make so many decisions, and my parents try and tell me how to run my life, i no i am young so i don't know everything, but they don't have to make every decision for me. so if u want to talk to me u can, oh and i have been a junior councilor, so it is not like talking to a normal 15 yr old trust me.

i am only 15, so i don't have to make so many decisions, and my parents try and tell me how to run my life, i no i am young so i don't know everything, but they don't have to make every decision for me. so if u want to talk to me u can, oh and i have been a junior councilor, so it is not like talking to a normal 15 yr old trust me.

Siblings Meg cant live with them ........

Search your heart for forgiveness.

He is your brother.

To be unforgiving is to carry a heavy heart.

Just because his concern may be over-the-top doen't mean that he re really doesn't have concern for you.



Many people will offer us "advice" (often unwanted), when they do, i just smile and say "thank you for your concern, i will think about what you have said." At least it works for me.



I wish you well as you deal with this issue

Thanks Ma :-) Love you and appreciate your encouraging words.

Thank you for your words of encouragement.

I wish to give u a warm hug and say that "Everything will be alright with time. Time is the biggest healer and solution for all problems." If your bro is like this..... just listen him from one year and make that out from the other ear. Believe in urself. I am 23 old guy and I dnt have much experience of life but the only thing that I am damn sure about life is that BELIEVE IN URSELF. RESPECT UESELF. If you cannot change things then change urself. Dont worry dear. I pray deeply that your life becomes happy as soon as possible. Just smile even if u dissappointed. Meg..... cheer up please..... U never know what the future be... expect good and avoid whatever makes u unhappy.

I'm not sure that I would talk like that about my brother, but then again what can one expect from a frustrated person that one day was more haugty then careful?

I have but unfortunately he doesn't listen :-(

Just tell him you understand what he is doing, and why he is reacting that way. However, you have the right to your own choices.

Hi Meg...I can highly relate to what you are experiencing with a family member. I'm currently 24 and have an older brother that is 44 years old. I am a survivor of child sexual, mental, physical, and emotional abuse...and now that I am an adult, it has been difficult to maintain relationships...The problem i have with my brother is the same reason as yours....I believe that I can make my own decisions and don't need someone who isn't properly taking care of their own life, to try to and control my life....IT KILLS ME to sit back and watch this person think that they know how to solve my problems...i say in my head, "get the heck away from me, live your own life!" I live my own life, I say what goes, in what direction, and when...IT'S MY LIFE, ITS MY DESTINY, AND I MAKE IT! I WILL NOT LET ANYONE CONTROL MY LIFE AGAIN!

Thanks Ma :-) Happy Birthday! Go read a happy story!!!

Sidebar: you know what I think of your piece of **** brother. I don't hold my tongue for anyone. Eventually he will get what is coming to him, from me.



He has disrespected me, my child, and my ex wife. I may dislike the ex, but nobody disrespects her. Nobody. Now that you brother has managed to disrespect one of my friends as well...wow.



Adding to all of this; he thinks I am some satanic animal because I do not worship your so-called God, and I have tattoos? He is just another self-righteous, right-winged, insecure zealot.



He needs to be put in his place. If he does not learn, and learn fast, I will put him there myself. Not a threat, it is a promise. He can try to break us up, and talk ****. While he does that, I will be waiting for the proper time to take action.

I was put on this earth to protect them....and I will.

Just let his crap go in one ear & out the other!

It is sad.



But I must add: people like that (brother or not) need not be in anyone's life. The real **** part of it is, that he will still make attempts to go behind your back to that rapist of an ex husband, and try to use your kids as a pawn in his little righteous cause de Meg.