Have Already Divorced You Emotionally

I love my husband. But it is clear that our marriage is just not going to work. My husband is 16 years older than me. I work full time and he stays home. We have 3 kids together. He is a great man, father. But some where down the line we just lost it. We always fight over the smallest dumb **** in the world. We have been seperated in living in different houses for over 4 years now. But still live like we are together. Our kids hear and see us fight all the time. I am lonley, and sad, depressed and confused. I like to go out with my girls once or twice a month just for some me time.........and he hates it. But yet he doesnt want to go out with me. I am just sick and tired, of being sick and tired.
SexyAlize SexyAlize
31-35, F
5 Responses Mar 28, 2011

I totally understand the pain. If approached with the feelings he turns everything around on me. He has totally isolated himself from me. He comes home gets his beatz and computer and that is what he does until I fall asleep. He doesnt touch me unless I really get mad and throw a fit which frankly I am tired of doing. I am under the opinion when you have been married so long you get a customed to one another or bored for the lack of a better term. One is in love and the other is falling out of love and vice versus. But it is a very scary thing when you are in a marriage and one is out of love and the other one is falling out of love too. There is no one there to hold it together.....Sad, but that is where we are after 20 plus years. :(

Marriage is a job with the ring being the pay check. If only I had known

marriage sucks yu marry because yu can't live without that someone and after marriage yu make each other miserable. Instead of trying to bring each other happiness.

I know what it's like to be in a marriage that is not working. I want to get out but I don't know how to without hurting my children. They know there is a problem yet I know they will suffer if I leave. I'm very lonely in my own bedroom. I will not kiss her unless she really wants to. I'm tired of the hurt and the pain so I just distance myself from her at all times.

Hi I understand what you are going through my marriage is not good either. I am right now in counseling to break away from him. I put up a front with others so they wont think nothing is going on but I am at a point where nothing is working.