I Am So Fed Up With My Marriage

The Best Gift You Can Give Me Is To Let Me Go!!

By: inthedark2012

Written on August 3rd, 2012

I want so desperately for my husband to tell me he wants a divorce I honestly think I would do a happy dance. I want to be free from all the anger and resentment I have towards him. Just being in his company makes me want to scream sometimes. I have gone so far as to tell him don't plan any more romantic getaways for us because it is a complete waste of money. I told him to give me the money and I'll take a solo vacation from now on. I'm so friggin' frustrated!! He walks around like everything is just fine.

By: inthedark2012

Age: 46-50 , Female

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inthedark2012

Dear Confusedandangry3...I could no longer wait for him to make the move to end this disaster of a marriage so I finally made the first move about 3 wks ago and told him I can't live like this anymore and he agreed. Prior to making this declaration to him I put a $500 deposit on my apartment and got approved...this was my motivation not to chicken out like I have in the past. Once those words flowed out of my mouth to him 'it's over' I felt 5 yrs of pain, resentment, anger etc just fall off of me. I have been the happiest woman for these past few wks. The irony in the whole thing is I'm still living in the same house with him until my new apartment is ready mid-May. He and I have been cordial and we actually talk about our upcoming separate lives (the first wk was a bit of a struggle for both of us) but the past couple of weeks we have been able to communicate. Something we haven't done in years. My only advice to you is make a plan for yourself and stop living in misery...life is too damn short.

Apr 14
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Confusedandangry3

I know exactly how u feel. My husband acts like nothing is wrong with our marriage I have him a final ultimatum and he has yet to even try. I want him to cheat or something so I can finally get out from him. He's a jerk and is all about money. I hate it.

Apr 14
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morogoro

seems like better to live together for a few months to know the other person in a nonromantic way so as much possible can be known about other persons behavior in situations, but will this make matrimony smooth?

Feb 4
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- inthedark2012
  If I hear of a couple living together before marriage I no longer discourage it. It's best to know as bf/gf then to marry and end up in a divorce.
  
  Feb 4
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finishstrong

It did not get to this point overnight so why did you let it get this bad before? What happened to the love that was once there (?) . There are too many details missing for anyone to be able to give much real substantive advice.

Oct 5, 2012
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- inthedark2012
  You are correct this did not happen overnight and there are more detail but the main point is that my marriage is over. To share all the intricate details would take too long but what I've come to accept is he married me out of convenience I married him out of love. When you love someone you tend to overlook the red flags it's not until you get to the point where I am now that everything becomes clear. I accept my responsibility in allowing this to continue for this long. I need to move on from him so I can begin a new life and start to heal.
  
  Oct 5, 2012
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- helenoftroy80
  I totally agree. I am beginning to think mine did the same. My story is a long and complicated one I have written it out on another post I was too blindsided by love for him at first I couldn't see the bad qualities.
  
  Dec 24, 2012
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- inthedark2012
  Sorry to hear that you have experienced a similar situation. If your post is on EP I would like to read it if you don't mind. Let me know where I can find it.
  
  Dec 26, 2012
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