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Need Sex Now!!!

So once again, here I am writing a journal entry, or blog, or anything, just getting my thoughts out into written words, while my little brat wife lays comfortably and soundly asleep in our bed in the adjacent master bedroom. Oh my freaking gosh, I need to have sex so badly right now it's ridiculous! I think that if I didn't have at least this outlet for just writing out some of my frustration, I would probably go get a prostitute right now!

And as I know that most of you are probably thinking by now "why doesn't he just look at **** and ********** or something???" I should probably inform you that that is absolutely and positively out of the question as I am a member of the mormon faith, and we are strictly forbidden to do anything like that! You can fool around with your spouse and yourself if he/she helps you, but other than that, you are just simply not allowed to ********** or look at **** and that's just all there is to it! Besides, I really don't find that even the slightest bit appetizing and so I don't think I'd even be tempted to do that even if I wasn't mormon.

So why am I sitting here writing this with a hard-on day-dreaming of my wife's gorgeous naked body as she lays soundly asleep in our bed? Well, I won't wake her because she's not feeling so well. Heck, even if she was feeling just fine, I still wouldn't wake her as she gets extremely irritated when I wake her for anything, let alone to have sex! You see, sex is a chore to my wife. It is something that she "allows" me to do to her when the horniness from a week or so of not getting any finally gets to her, and she figures that since she can't have anyone else, I'll just have to do to ease her pent-up libido.

I hate not being able to have my wife whenever the heck I want! I absolutely hate it!!! Who died and included in their will that the female race would be the guardians of any and all sexual encounters within the household? Who invested them with power to call a headache a legitimate reason for denying any sexual advances for as long as their "headache" may last? It's all a load of crap if you ask me! Little did they know that it's actually been scientifically proven that the muscle contractions experienced by a woman during ****** triggers the release of hormones of the parasympathetic nervous system which have been found to aid in the release of tension and pain caused by migraines and headaches!

If you can't tell, I'm just a little sex starved in my relationship, and I really have no idea why! I'm a good looking man, (about 6 foot even), I have dark olive skin as I am Hispanic, I work out on the regular and have a wonderfully toned and muscular physique, I have dark hazel eyes, spiked hair, a grin that can make any woman that I may come across blush, and I always keep myself well groomed as I am for all intents and purposes about as metrosexual as a man can get! And don't you dare think me gay for I am deeply in love with the idea of shaved *****! ;-)

So why no sex for Spencer? Why people? Why do I long and yearn for the touch of my dear sweet wife? Why do I ache to feel her juicy soft legs wrapped around mine or her cute little boobs brush against my thick muscular chest, and she doesn't even look up at the sight of me shirtless? WHY? I just don't understand? What am I doing wrong? Why do I get a hard on that you could hang a wrecking-ball from just checking out her fully clothed butt, but if I try to even just kiss her when I'm fresh out of the shower she just pecks me on the cheek and goes on doing whatever the heck she was doing before I showed up?

Women of Experience Project I really need your help on this one!!!! Neither of us cheat on each other, I can promise you all that-we are too devoted to our faith and way too traditional to even think about that, so I will absolutely not accept the suggestion that "oh, she's probably recieving sexual fulfillment from something, or somebody else and so when she comes home to you she just really has no further needs or sexual desires". BULLCRAP! I will not accept that as a possibility! Not true!

I don't know what to do people, I just want more sex, that's all! I've explained this need to my wife on multiple occaisons, and it never seems like she changes anything or tries to make an effort! And yes, I do all the little things for those of you women who will claim that that is what I am doing wrong! I tidy up when I get home every single day! I do the dishes, I help make dinner, I make dinner some nights, I make the bed, I bring her home flowers randomly and for no good reason other than to make sure she knows just how much I love her. I send her sweet emails and tell her how beautiful she looks always. I do everything that any woman wished that their husband/boyfriend would do, and yet here I am sexless, sitting here on my couch writing this pathetic post! UGH! Life sucks!!!

Anyways, any help any of y'all might be able to give; any advice, anything really, would be greatly appreciated! I truly hope that others who respond to this post are people who have happy and healthy sex lives and that none of you are suffering through the same thing that I am, because it truly hurts to feel like your partner doesn't need or want you sexually, and if you are by chance going through what I am, be of good cheer, you are not alone! :-)

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Are you really that surprised? They shame and humiliate women and mormon men so much about sex that they wind up hating it forever. They give so much guilt and sexism that people just dry up and wither in that aspect. People are not even allowed to pleasure themselves, so they never get a chance to properly learn about their bodies or what they like. I am surprised mormons are even able to produce children or how they don't just roll over and cry themselves to sleep. I tried to be a mormon and I almost went insane on how restrictive and obsessive they were about my personal life, it's just too much in my opinion. So the reason I think your wife doesn't give sex isn't because she sucks, or you're not being a good husband, but your religion has sapped away all the desire, injected guilt, and reinforced the patriarchal notion that just by buying flowers a woman is supposed to be grateful and spread her legs, instead of building a relationship ba<x>sed on real maturity, connection, passion, and understanding for one another. Instead you're going "Waaah I did A,B, and C, why no sex for me? Like a kid asking for candy. This is BS gimmie the sex, wife is sex ob<x>ject for me." I am not saying your wife holding out on you is justified that is cruel in its own way, but the religious approach never made sense to me. Teach people to hate themselves and their bodies, and then magically expect women to surrender those years of guilt to their husbands immediately, who don't even know how to maturely communicate the matter. This is not a sex problem, this is a deep psychological issue. My best advice is you both see a marriage counselor or therapist, because I assure you, when the passion in a relationship suffers, it's not because something is wrong with the genitals, but because of the whole dynamic of the situation. <br />
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And before you assume I'm some nymphomaniac, I am actually Eastern Orthodox and fairly conservative, but there is a point where the church has to draw a line and stop sticking it's nose into people's personal lives, lest they be damaged forever.

im so Jealouse! , there is nothing more that I crave in this moment , but a man in my bed .... she is lucky and she doesnt know it.

mmm... i wish my hubby craved sex with me the way u do with your wife... he's so lukewarm n lazy in bed

first of all can i say that coming from a guys point of view, it hurts to me to read and hear about other men being continuingly denied sex on a regular bases from the wives. THIS IS YOUR ******* WIFE!!!!!!!! DO UNDERSTAND WHAT THAT MEANS SIR!!! this is the women who you've given your heart to and love! the woman you have chosen to be your lover and your closest friend!!!! the woman to be the mother of your children!!!! the person who you will spend the rest of your life with!!! no way can this person deny you the right to please her and please yourself. this is plain wrong! as a husband you have every right to **** you wife how u want, when you want and where you want as long as it doesnt break the law. women seem to forget that men can be very sensitive to rejection as well since it can deeply effect our confidence and performance. let her know that you want sex regularly ,unless she has a legitimate medical condition preventing her from having sex she cannot refuse your requests. she may bring up a list of excuses if shes a bad wife but if she honestly cannot have penetrative sex with you that night for whatever reason then she needs to find other ways to satisfy you. and before any women women reads this and say that im a sexist pig i say the same applies to men in relationships, if you cant satisfy you wives needs then she has every right to complain and leave your sorry ***.<br />
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i think its sad to hear of good, decent men and husbands who are denied sex from their wives especially in this day and age where promiscuity, adultery and divorce rates are so high. horror stories of men who love their partners but have turned to **** addiction to satisfy themselves, men who constantly feel pressured to remain faithful despite the constant rejections they recieve, men who feel trapped in a relationship, ironically, with the person they love. its aboslutly not fair, a man to put up with the demands of his wife and yet be denied the simple pleasures of married life. <br />
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now you might ask why is this happening? do these women have no sexual desires? are they cheating? are they doing it to punish and oppress their husbands? sometimes yes this is the case, in some relationships where men fall for cruel and dominating partners who use and manipulate them. however this is not always the case and you will be surprised to know 9 times out 10 its the fault of the husband in some way or form and not the wife! yes thats right ITS YOUR FAULT!! - - AS A MAN IF YOU ARE ASKING, PLEADING OR BEGGING FOR SEX THEN YOU ARE DOING SOMETHING WRONG!!! - - if you know how to treat your women properly sex will never, ever be an issue. i will try and give you the best answer so excuse me if its too long to read or if i have explained to you facts you were already aware off!<br />
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NOW! its a common misconception that men think about and want sex more than women, yes we men will probably think about sex more times in a day on comparison but your wife will also want to feel loved, admired, cherished and touched everyday, if anything a good women expects these things from her man (if she loves him). now the difference between us and women is the way we see and think about sex and this comes down to the way our brains are wired<br />
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we men are turned on most of the time visually, its the way our brain works. im sure your wife probably wont have to do much for you to get a raging *****. sometime just because shes there doing nothing, or even just cleaning the kitchen will be enough for your brain to think about all kinds of things you'd want to do to her. AND THATS NO FAULT OF YOUR OWN. thats just the way we are, ENJOY IT. now your wife on the other hand (like all other females) need to be stimulated mentally to be turned on. visual cues just arent enough to get your woman in the mood to get down and dirty. "now how do i stimulate my wifes brain?" you might ask. well here is the tricky bit. there is no one straight answer to this. as much as most women will think alike each one is different and unique. women are the most beautifull yet mysterious creatures in universe (and sometimes the most annoying) and so its not always easy to know what your wife likes or dislikes unless she openly tells you ( but never ask her her!!!!) women love it when you know and demonstrate what they want without them telling us. this is because every women will have in their mind an ideal man, some kind of super-human that doesnt exist on earth, and in that there is a check list of things a woman admires, loves, and is turned on by in a man. some women will not be aware of this concept that they have hard wired in thier minds and so will remain dissatisfied in a relationship clueless as to why, where as some women will spend their entire lives going through man after man looking for this super - being.<br />
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now the point is YOU as her man need to know what turns on your wife, in the same way your wife needs to know how to turn you on. luckly for women, bending over in a new pair of edible lingerie will be enough to turn on even the most sexually picky men. where us men have the momentous task of trying to engage the fathomless, turmoil ocean of the female mind, like i say every women secret combination is different and so it a your mission as loving husband to figure out your wife's deepest desires. depending on the calibre of the women you have she will not make this easy for you.<br />
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from my experience i can tell you making your women laugh is ESSENTIAL to breaking the ice. humour and laughter will help her relax and bring down her defences ( the ones shes put between you and herself.) play with her, tease her, push her buttons, make her laugh, make her angry. what you want is an emotional response from wife to bring her out of her shell. this is because women place more value on emotional connection as a spark of sexual desire. my last girlfriend didnt like me teasing her and would immediately get turned off (maybe because she was very self concious or maybe because she wasnt very witty herself i dono) but she would love play fighting with me in the house, sometimes i would pretend to let her win, sometimes i would carry her and throw her about the bed to make her scream and laugh. sometimes your wife will be in a bad mood or upset and so she will tell you to stop or go away. take no hid to this initial rejection and carry on your intentions even if infuriates her further. your goal is to allow your wife to vent and direct her negative emotions into positive sexual energy. his is very important, as it forms a deep emotional bond with your wife and it shows her your not afraid of her anger. however this doesnt mean you can man handle your wife whenever you want, pick an choose your moments. a good time would be after a resolved but heated argument, or by ""punishing"" your wife after she has done something wrong etc.<br />
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this is also useful in maintaining a power balance with your wife. since women are naturally far better communicators and managers then men( skills that will one day help them become good mothers) they will have a tenancy to dominate all aspects of the relationship. men who have to ask, plead, bargain and beg for sex have allowed there wives natural domineering behaviour to enter the bedroom. By playing with and teasing your wife it will allow you to assert you natural physical dominance over her in a healthy manor. all women secretly love this, they want you to do this, women admire men with confidence and this is one way to demonstrate it. however remember to use this appropriately you need to learn how to strike a comfortable balance where your woman has some sense of control and independence over the relationship without compromising your needs and desires as a man<br />
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lastly im not gonna go to much detail here, but once you do get her in bed. give her more than she expects. i once gave my ex a 2 hour straight session to the point that she could still feel sensations the next day and found it difficult to walk. she said it was so good she had to tell her friends. that the kind of response you want. that way your garenteed that wife will not refuse you. honestly you say your wife is not cheating on you, but if your not satisfying her she will be tempted find satisfaction else where just in the same way you are tempted to (even jokingly) to call a prostitute or look a ****. women are better cheaters than men and will have an alibi and lie to cover up the first lie and a third lie to cover up the second lie and will never know. all they have to do is pretend it never happened and POOFFF is gone. women usually will do this when they feel there isnt an emotional fulfilment in the relationship so make sure you fix this before its too late.<br />
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thats all i can say for now as im to tired to type any more. hope helps mate.<br />
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good luck.<br />
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Also never tell your wife you love her, she should know this already in the way you treat her. only use those magic words in the most essential moments.

Gosh I really admire you for letting out your true emotions to this page itself. iam 36 & never had a partner . I have never known what it is like to be loved. I long for a hot guy to make passionate love to me anywhere, outside, indoors in the shower in a mudbath with food the lot. although if it did come true I know i would be so nervous yet exitied at the same time