To Many Times

its just my nature,i can`t intentionally hurt someone.and there are people who just walk all over me.mainly freinds ,my mom gets so can`t let them do that!she always says.and she is wright.but i do.and i useually get hurt ,but i know that its comming ,ijust can`t hurt anyone.

ghostofmyself ghostofmyself
1 Response Mar 25, 2009

you are what is known as a "soft target". I know all about this. Insecure people sense it and use the same tactics on you over and over. <br />
You need to get a copy of the book "Who's pulling your strings?" it helped me a lot when I had a really manipulative and controlling boss. I couldn't believe it, but there are actual patterns that these people follow to walk all over you. It gives you little hints. Like, if someone asks you to do something, you train yourself to say "I'll get back to you" or "I have to do something now" etc...but you don't give them an answer right away. It buys you time because what they do is pressure you for a quick answer. But you keep repeating your excuse, and they will give up.<br />
It takes practice, but it really works. You are not a doormat, you just have to learn these tricks the way they learned to manipulate people.<br />
Good luck!