A Question

Is the problem being shy or needing to be not shy just to fit in?
anananahi anananahi
26-30, F
2 Responses Aug 29, 2011

It could be both, sometimes when you get shy, it's because you are afraid of not fitting in. Sometimes, when you're not feeling confident in yourself, you tend to withdraw. I'd say just slowly try to talk to people, say hi, the worst a person can do it ignore you. It's their loss, not yours.

I think you nailed the square peg right on the head :) First you accept yourself, flaws and shyness and all. That is not easy or quick, I understand. But once you finally start truly accepting yourself wholly, magically, the things you used to worry about so much, you worry about less and less. You and I may never be social butterflies, but I have gotten to a place where I can have conversations with people I don't know (not very often mind you, but it's gotten better trust me...) The shyness is still there, but I can brush it aside much more easily now because I am more secure with the fact that I am different and that's okay :)