Being Shy Is Affecting My Friendships and Relationship

Hi everyone hope your all ok im not to show how to start but hear goes:

Basically im 21 years old and im so shy and self conscious its affecting my social life with my friends and my boyfriend. I've never really had many friends and most of them don't stick around cos im boring and quiet.

When I left school i was invited out to house parties loads of times but i didn't go i always made an excuse just because i thought i wouldn't fit in, now those friends have long gone and i can't say i blame them.

As i've got older i've made more friends and grew more confidence, and i've been with my boyfriend for over a year, but recently its gone down again and even the only best friend i had has had enough of me and im worried im going to lose my boyfriend because of it.

I wouldn't say i was boring i can be quite funny when i want to be but because im so worried im gonna say something stupid i just don't talk. I really need help getting my confidence back before i lose my boyfriend aswell as my friends.

Thanks for listening guys sorry for waffling on, any help at all would be geat thankyou :)


angelface21 angelface21
22-25, F
5 Responses May 31, 2009

Hey there... I'm 22, super shy that I can't move forward however I want or even need to. So shy I can't make connections, can't talk with confidence to students... i need friends

aw thanks 4 the advice guys i feel better already i will try what you suggested hopefully i can improve my confidence once again :)

I know exactly what you are talking about. I'm so shy it ruins all my good oportunities. But sometimes there are moments when I get so sick of myself I just get out there and do whatever it is that I want to do and when i do it...O my! I feel alive. Just try it. When You feel like holding back or running the other way go head first into it. See what happens. Our lives are short and i'm tired of being shy. I don't want it to interfere with who I am, and I know that you don't want to. So just give it a try and do something you normally wouldn't sure it's safe though. It can be something simple like smileing at someone or even bigger. YOU ARE LIMITLESS!!!!!!! Tell yourself that everyday!

their is nothing wrong with being shy some people take that as a challenge to get you to talk. I bet you are very beautiful and you are not going to a fend your good friends and if you do they are not friends at all. if you are not use being around very many people than i can see why you feel that way. you need to let that wall come down some and share your feelings with your good friends and you will find out that some of them feel the same way. you need to let your boyfriend know how you feel about him and mat be things will progress from their. let us know things work out.

i feel the same way and i wish you well :)