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I Am So Unhappy

In My Presence,but Im Still Lonley

By: clantonrd
Written on February 24th, 2011
hi. i have been married for 14 years, to a man that has no reguard for me, my feelings, my spirit. i try so hard to make everyday as light as possible, but some how i fail. and i get treated like i am a child, like i have no intelegence.he wont work.wont  help in the house,wont help with kids(4). isnt positive in anyway.i do everything for us. lights,water, gas.dog food, basically any and everything  that we need i get. and find away for the wants.and yet, its like im proveing to him that im worthy. i cant be sexy with him. he laughs at it.we are intimate rarely, and we have lost that flare we dont see eye to eye  on how to do things. like discipline with the children.cooking......everything is an argument. no affection, or compassion.......... just total soul sick....and i have not one to confide in............
By: clantonrd
Age: 31-35
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  • ilikethis2
    ilikethis2

    You say you have been married 14 years, so there must be something that you too are good at. I think that your man has no excuse and he should be kicked out of the door! Having said that and seeing that you have not done that shows that you have some faith or belief in you deep down that urges you to consider and tolerate him more! I say, discuss it with him, do not give him any food or money and give him the cold treatment...Give him ultimatums and stick to them. Start with smaller steps or actions he can readily take and encourage him along with bolder steps towards a better person.



    May be he needs careful loving and talking, like a child. Do not throw away your years of togetherness just like that.



    Best of luck. If things do not improve, then out the door you need to push him, but do get your kids on your side, at least the ones that are grown or mature enough to handle the situation, otherwise they may blame you all your life!

    Apr 26, 2011
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  • thecarer
    thecarer

    Think you need to prioritise your life and with 4 children to look after do you really need adult no 5 who is behaving like a child.If you are doing all the run around and all he does isput you down argue and is no help with children and reading between lines would say there teen age or approaching when they need firm but loving parents.My choice in your situation would be I can cope with my kids but partner no good so good bye,

    Its just my opinion as i think you have those kids to sort out let partner go and find another door mat to wipe his feet on you deserve better and if you want to chat message me.

    Feb 24, 2011
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