The Simple Things

like introductions, shaking hands, small talk.  I can't do it.  I don't know how.  I am working on it but people must think I am so rude, and I hate that because i don't mean to be rude.  I often realize after the fact how rude I was but then it's too late...I hate this about myself.  I really hate it.

Sometimes I think my boss will fire me because I have so much trouble talking to parents (I work with kids).
eromreven eromreven
8 Responses Dec 5, 2007

MissedTheBoat...I read your response once and over again, to let it sink in...this is a true description of me. I always...always want to talk about deeper subjects, and with strangers! I want to know people deeply. I can say nothing more than that this is so very me.

I totally know what you're saying.<br />
Whenever I go to work I never really say hi to anyone and I feel like everyone thinks I don't like them because of it. The cooks are always like "how come you never say hi to us?!" I don't tell them that the reason is because I don't like saying hi to everyone. I just laugh it off and says it's because I'm busy working. Saying hi over and over again to a bunch of different people just gets annoying after a while, I am also kind of shy and feel like I am being judged when I am talking to everyone. But I do think I have gotten better at introductions as I have gotten older and by the jobs I have had..

I understand, people think i am rude for the same reasons. I try making up for it by doing extra nice things for people when I can. Eventually people will realize that you are just being you and don't intend to be rude.

Hi your story struck me, I have never liked small talk,<br />
I muddel thru, somehow, but I love to talk about serious things,but just non issues I like someone commented, I can fake it...:-)

yeah, that makes sense.

I know what you mean, Icy. When I was younger, people often thought that I was rude when I was just EXTREMELY shy. I think that it does get somewhat better with age. Also, if it is work-related, it should get better as you gain confidence in your knowledge base. Does this make sense? I'm not sure that I'm communicating what it is that I am trying to say.

I don't want a different job. I need to be in these situations, as much as I hate it, so that I'll get better at it. I don't know, though. I've gotten somewhat better about it, I guess.

You should probably get a different job anyway if you don't like talking to people.