Not Really a People Person

I have a really hard time making friends, and it's not that I'm not able to function in social situations....well I guess thats exactly what it is..lol. Really I just have a hard time with small talk, it just seems irrelevant to me. Sometimes I find myself talking to someone and every thing will be going good until I don't know what to say anymore. I don't know how to keep a conversation going or interesting. I hate sounding stupid during a conversation so usually if a few people are talking i'll wait until I have something witty or intelligent to say, then when I say it it doesn't come out as articulate as I hoped. Usually my comments are either a little too late or they go over people's head because the comment was way out of the box in the first place, and then I have to repeat myself and everyone knows your words lose effect when you have to keep repeating yourself, so I just keep my thoughts to myself...my mom says it's better that way. lol.

breezy90 breezy90
22-25, F
2 Responses Mar 23, 2009

Thanks for actually understanding, most people don't get where I'm coming from. Streetlamp- I agree, people who mostly engage in small talk are afraid to open up but other times it's just because they're not really interesting or informed. It's so hard to find people to just talk to, it doesn't even have to be current events or anything smart, I'd be happy talking about Pineapple Express. <br />
It'sgonnahappensomeday, thanks for the compliment. Not being a people person can be good but really lonely and boring. I also feel like an outsider even when with "friends". I feel like I'm being fake because I just act like I'm enjoying myself. I just don't feel like I belong..it's a weird feeling to explain.

just be honest. i have the same "issue" as you, and i have found that the people who understand my real thoughts and views (instead of dumb small talk) are the ones that i would want as friends anyway. yeah, be honest, but nice. you know ;) and remember that people who are really good at small talk usually are just afraid to open up and be hoenst, or they have nothing else to talk about.