Sometimes I have to push myself to answer the phone or accept an invitation to hang/go out with friends. Once I'm out I end up having a great time but it's the initial contact that makes me want to hide in my shell. Ugh I hate it. I wish I was naturally extroverted.
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11 Responses Aug 20, 2014

I understand the discomfort but at least you are able to push yourself out there and have some kind of life. Other people, including myself at one time, can't push themselves out and are mired in their own closed little world. I mention this because it is looking at the bright side of things and it may help you out.

We are the same! I love going out but still crave my own company most of the time.. Im a caring person but at the same time i can be detached and play it cool whenever certain situations screaming of drama.

I hate people too


Don't fight yourself! You can't make yourself an extrovert if you are not!

Just enjoy each moment as you.

Im exactly the same.

I'm the same way

I have the same feeling. We maybe just enjoy our own company.

Try watching the movie Yes Man.

Funny you should say that! I often think of that movie when my mind reverts to the initial "no, I don't want to" ;-)

I understand what you're saying. I have issues with doing anything with my friends, only because I normally get used for money or I am ignored when around my friends. I often times have to force myself to think of the people I talk to from school, as friends. But sometimes they really do feel like such close friends that I can trust them with anything.

I understand what you are going through. I think the older you get, the more options you have to select your true friends. When you are in grade school or high school you are confined to a set group of people you are basically forced to choose your friends from. There are so many more options out there. People who share your same interests and personality. :-)

Yeah, that makes sense. And I really do hope that I can/will find people to be close friends, and will accept me for who I am and not what I can do for them. It bothers me a lot when my friends from school don't want to hang out with me whenever I ask them. Even more so when I here that they plan to do something, I'm not included, and am forced to spend my weekends by myself.

I feel your pain :-(

I am quite the same..