Both Sides, Extremes, Stereotypes And Bashing.I've read a lot of stories on here pertaining to anti-feminism and feminism and it appears, much like the conservative vs. liberal debate in politics, it's mainly just about a bunch bashing and assumptions, judging individuals on the basis of a stereotypical group.
I do not call myself a feminist, because honestly I'm ashamed at how the newer breed of feminists have presented themselves. Many of them have gone to the extreme of bashing men in general and women who choose to stay home and raise their children. They also hold many double standards.-
Does this mean that I do not think that women should have equal opportunities as men? No, it doesn't. If you can do the job as well or better than a man, then yes you should be able to receive the same or better pay. That being said, I don't want a 90 lb. woman trying to rescue me from a fire, there's a reason that there are certain requirements for certain jobs. If you can't cut it, then the standards should not be lowered for you.
I don't agree with those within the movement that want to try and force men only clubs to allow women. Then they are ok with clubs that only allow women. Isn't that a double standard? I have no problem with men only clubs and women only clubs. I went to a gym that was women only and I preferred it. The women were much more supportive of each other and less competitive when men were not around. Why shouldn't men also have this opportunity?
I spent a long time as a single mother wishing that I could have the time to spend with my children that they deserve. Now I have it. My husband takes on the burden of making the money for me to do so. I consider it a blessing that I can stay home. These are not only Christian values by the way. I am Pagan and in many of the Pagan belief systems, women were worshiped as life givers and providing for their children as a loving mother was and is still not looked down upon. instead they are held in high esteem as should be the case.
Nobody should say that they are 'just' a mother or father. It is one of the most important jobs there is. You are raising a whole human being. It is of my opinion that it is ideal for one parent to stay home if possible, whether it is the father or mother. It is better for the children. Yes, fathers can be great nurturers too. I am aware that this is not always possible, but it is an ideal situation. I feel that the current feminist movement does not hold this responsibility in high regard.
Just for the record, I don't consider myself an anti-feminist either. Both are extremes and they lack balance, not presenting true equality among women and men. I do realize that not everyone fits the mold on either side that the majority seem to present, but I still would not label myself as either.
RhombusInTheSquare 36-40, F 11 Responses 22 Nov 11, 2012