Need Advice After 25 Years Married & Now He Wants Out
I would like to know what anyone else in my situation would do. My husband and I have been married for almost 25 years. Last year I discovered he was texting a woman he works with at least 500 times per month!! I was shocked, I asked him about her and he immediately said "I am not having an affair, she is only a friend." That was 18 months ago. In that time he has said he "thinks" we should probably divorce as we are both unhappy. That was the first I had heard of being unhappy. I immediately started getting finances in order and checking out worth of home to sale etc... this was a year ago. Nothing has been said since. I do not work outside the home and haven;t for several years, per his request. All kids are way grown and gone. I don't know if he still wants a divorce or not..I haven't asked. I have us in the position to sell our home in the spring 2011 and all credit cards will be paid off at that time. He will have to pay alimony of several hundred dollars per month, split all 401-k, pension and savings (I did check wth a lawyer when he first mentioned divorce)... and I have to find health insurance, as there is maintenance and minimal health issues. All of this is very scary for me, and I am not sure if I should just keep going along or ask him if we are still splitting?? Please know that we have been living like roommates since I discovered all of this, I will not sleep with a man who is thinking of someone else. My daughter wants me to move to her city and buy a condo...I have been married all of my life, this was my second marriage, and I am 53 years old. It might be a little scary but living alone does not concern me.... I have stayed in shape and retained the same size I was 25 years ago, but NO WAY will I ever remarry. Please guys, some helpful advice would be appreciated.